I need an answer from Christians.?

Question

why do all the christians around me say that christians should date/marry only christians? is this from the Bible or is it another stupid rule that people just made up? also i wonder why is it important for christian guys to marry a virgin girl (i know that probably not all the guys, but the majority around me is like that)? how is this fair?

Steve b Seeking after salvation: no, i just think that christians say that the blood of Jesus wash away your sins, but at the same time it seems like your life before converting into christianity is important. at least for people. so you will pay for your deeds till the end of your life.

Answer 1

I dont think there are rules about that, if there are any just let me know. For now I believe that there are no rules that a Christian man can't marry a non-Christian girl. It's up to the couple involved, whether they will live harmoniously or not. Marrying a virgin, I think is rooted from one's culture. Thats all I know.

Answer 2

It is from the Bible.

However, it's not a "rule" per se, but a suggestion. Being "unequally yoked" adds a lot of stress to a marriage. It's a lot easier if both parties agree on religion.

I'm speaking from experience here. I'm married to a man who was an atheist when we met (born and raised), and is now a non-religious theist. I became a Christian a year ago. It hasn't been easy.

As for why virginity is important, I'd say it's better if both the man and the woman entering into marriage are virgins. It's better for them, and there's no risk of STDs. But that's just my opinion.

Neither my husband nor I were virgins when we married. I sometimes think it would have been better if we had been.

Answer 3

Wow dont listen to people who give you that idea. Me and my girl arent having sex till we get married only because we know its Gods word and im held accountable to what i know and kick against the grain. But No the bible doesnt say you have to marry a christian because 1 Cor 7 says that the unbelieving wife is saved through the believing husband and so also the unbelieving husband is saved through the believing wife and likewise the children as well. But also both should be virgins when getting married not just the girl but not many people these days have self control to stay abstenant. But also if the christian man is still a virgin then yes it would be better for him to marry a virgin girl only for her abstaining from sex and believing in Gods word. And even if she wasnt a virgin and did lose her virginity before you still cant judge her for because only God is the rightful judge and you dont know if He has forgiven her for it and opened up her heart. But no it doesnt say an unbeliever so much but not an athiest that would be bad.

Answer 4

Because the church say that a christian person can marry a non-christian, its just logical, they don"t share the same believe so they can't get along with each other.
yes and yes.
it is sure NOT important for a christian guy to marry a virgin, the guys you are talking about have to be really hard Christians, nowadays most people divorce and remarry each other minimum 1 time; maximum 7,8 even 9 times. most people are not (straight) Christians so they marry each other and most nowadays wouldn't even care that wife/husband is non-christian, most people say they have Christian faith but they don't always act like one. of course you still have the Protestant Christians, they do all of this except the virgin thing, that's just made up by you, Muslims still have to marry a virgin woman, yes.

Answer 5

Almost all religions say that the girl should be virgin when she gets married, so she is without sin, "clean" and pure. But let's be honest. How many girls get married as virgins nowadays?
About marrying someone of the same religion, that's silly. God is the same, even if He is called God, Allah, Jesus, etc etc, He is the same Superior Force, we just call it different and have invented some rules that are different for the different religions,that's all. So if 2 people from 2 separate religions can accept one anothers beliefs, it's like getting used and accepting one another's principles, it's the same thing!

Answer 6

Yes, it is scriptural that a Christian should not marry a non christian. This seems to be more of a practical thing though because it would be difficult for both the believer and the unbeliever to live together with out constantly arguing over this.
This is a hot subject in any circle.
The virgin thing is not scriptural. It is the nature of the beast and most of us guys, when you strip away social inhibitors, are beasts at best.

Your friendly neighborhood
Gypsy Priest

Answer 7

I would strongly recommend that you marry someone that believes like you in faith and other areas of life. It is scriptural and as I can see you have already gotten several scriptures thrown at you. I am 49, raised 2 beautiful girls and did all that was within my power to train them up in the way they should go. My husband, though a Christian was my biggest battle! That is why I say "other areas". There are a ton of areas that your relationship will be tested on and you should seriously and prayerfully consider who will be your spouse or you could truly be setting yourself up for a life of hell. These are my words of wisdom on that subject!

Now for the virgin stuff! I was not a virgin when we married but I had just gotten saved 2 years before. It really bothered me and I felt unworthy or some junk like that. I did not have sex with my husband until our wedding night though. Once I was saved I committed my life, body, soul and spirit to the Lord. Was it easy? NOOOOOOOOOOO! But I put my trust in the Lord to provide for me and keep me. I prayed about the whole virgin thing and I felt like God gave me a peace about it and that in His eyes I was pure and holy before Him.
As for the husband and his issues...he has chosen to be very lax in his walk with the Lord which has made it very difficult on me but God is faithful to me and for that I am forever grateful!!!

I hope this helps you honey, I am proud of you that in this day and age that you are even considering these issues, it shows a godly spirit is in you!

Answer 8

So, you lost your virginity because of fairness? And now everyone should accept that?

Marrying a Christian, by another Christian is simple logic, something that you probably wouldn't understand.

Btw, if you are not Christian why would you want to marry one?

To marry a virgin because, maybe STD's including AIDS, maybe a valid reason, I think.

Answer 9

I'm christian and very proud of that. BUT we can be VERY hypocritical when it comes down to male/female rules....It does say in the bible to marry someone in equal to you in your belief but I believe that if you meet and fall in love with someone that is not of equal belief than God has a plan for that. As far as the virgin thing goes, that is so outdated but you should wait for the right person to give that very special gift to.

Answer 10

date/marry only christians?

1 Cornithians 7:12

To the rest I declare--I, not the Lord that if any brother has a wife who does not believe [in Christ] and she consents to live with him, he should not leave or divorce her.

13And if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he consents to live with her, she should not leave or divorce him.

14For the unbelieving husband is set apart (separated, withdrawn from heathen contamination, and affiliated with the Christian people) by union with his consecrated (set-apart) wife, and the unbelieving wife is set apart and separated through union with her consecrated husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean (unblessed heathen, [a]outside the Christian covenant), but as it is they are [b]prepared for God [pure and clean].