2007-11-25 22:18:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well i grew up in a large family, with 2 sisters and 2 brothers, mum and dad, until my mum moved abroad. i dont remember what home life was like befor my mum moved abroad, just the period afterwards.
In the beginning my dad had traditional Nigerian values - i.e. children should be seen and not heard. He softened somewhat as time went on but in the beginning we basically only spoke if he wanted something from me, or i wanted something from him. My older siblings took care of me and my brother mostly until they all moved out, and that included playing with us and talking with us. I dont remember my Dad ever playing games with us kids or talking about stuff unless it was about schoolwork (although this improved dramatically as i entered my teens)
When we were young children discipline either meant spanking, or pepper in the eyes (for my brother usually)- the latter a popular punishment amongst african parents. If i was really bad i got beaten with a belt, or i would have to stand in a particular awkward position for a long time e.g with my hands in the air. Admittedly my dad v.rarely punished us only for the more serious offences.
The domestic jobs were neglected somewhat. There was always plenty of food cooked but i dont remember the house being very clean or tidy (we were also very overcrowded with 6 people in a 3 bed council flat).
Today my husband and I have a small family (2 very young children). We both make efforts to play with them and talk to them when possible. Discipline usually means going into naughty corner for 3 minutes (mind you she is only 2 years old).
Having grown up in a messy home, i am very particular about having a nice clean home. Its not perfect as we too are over-crowded, and I have young children, one of whom is a prolific mess-creator. But i do my best!
2007-11-26 00:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Growing up I was in a military family both my mother and father left in 6 month intervals of time. My father worked for the navy and my mother was a military nurse. I didnt have them around as much as I wanted. Thats why its so hard for me to leave my son even to go to the movies
2007-11-25 22:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by littlemissmay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhm! I spent allot more time with my kids then I do remember my mother spending with me. I say I love you them as often as I can an they to each other not with my sisters and brothers. My sisters and brothers do not get together or rely on each other as my kids have been taught by me to do.There are tons of variables which will take all day to get into my mother raise nine kids alone. I only had four to bring up and kinda had a floor plane even if it was flawed.
2007-11-26 00:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by mother 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My children are not exposed to drunken alcoholics. There is no screaming and fighting. They have never seen their mother beaten up. They have never had to hide in a closet or under a bed in fear. They do not worry about me to the point of becoming physically sick....I would worry about Momma to the point of vomiting. My children are living with parents who love and respect each other and them....That is the biggest difference.
Peace.
2007-11-25 23:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The difference is I don't put up with as much mess as my mother and father did. I am pretty strict. I don't care if my daughter doesn't like me(which presently she does. She's five.) I am her parent. Not her friend. She can trust me with anything. I do speak to her on her level, but when it comes to the rules, I am always right. She knows better than to argue with me, because I always win! My son(21.5 months) is quickly learning that arguing with Mommy is a useless battle, too!
2007-11-25 23:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by MamiZ-Notorious Faithful Freak 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My parents were religious freaks. I refused to raise my children like that. My kids grew up fine.
2007-11-25 23:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
though i did grow up in a stable loving home, we just say i love you openly in my house now!
and our kids are spoilt rotten, we buy them anything they want!,, i used to beg till i was blue as i child and never got what i wanted!
and i like to know every detail about my kids schooling and bullying that goes on there,,,, cos as a kid i suffered and was lonely and teased and my mum never asked once if i had any freinds!
theres heaps more i guess, and i do things with my kids now, the way i would have loved them done when i was a kid, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-11-25 23:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Miss Grace, I unfortunetly shot blanks before my fall but if I did have kids I would try to raise them pretty much the same as I was raised !
2007-11-26 07:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much difference. There's a few differences with the fact that my child is homeschooled and I wasn't. I stay at home with her and my mother couldn't. Punishment in my day was a spanking, not with my child, she gets grounded.
2007-11-25 23:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Susan C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my Dad and his parents, he was an alcoholic. I'm married 32 years and there no alcoholism in my family.
2007-11-26 00:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by SandraR 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋