im so scared, someone please help?

Question

i have just found out that i am pregnant and i am so scared!i am going to have an abortion but i do not no how i am going to cope with it all, my boyfreind of 2years does not want to no. but yet he has 2 other kids with 2 girls and at the time they were not wanted but when it comes to me and our child he tells me to get rid of it, and in the future maybe try again. its not the right time at all. i dont no if i am being selfish when it comes to feeling bad and as much as i love him i hate him, and he does not understand what i am about to put my body and emotions through! i hate myself but i have to do it, but i am so scared what am i going to do??

Answer 1

its a hard thing to do, i had one 2 weeks ago
the hurts unbearable sometimes
but i know what i did was right

http://abortionsupportsite.blogspot.com

Answer 2

You have a mind of your own and he cannot make you do anything you don't want to do, who is to say you will be with him for the rest of your life, you could have the abortion and he could dump you. Don't be scared you are stronger then you think you are, inside you have an inner strength that will help you though all your trying times. Don't do something you regret for the rest of your life he is not worth it, the best thing for you would be to find a good support network such as your family and friends and bring up the baby on your own with their help, your not being selfish he is and I don't think you should waste one more minute staying with this guy. Let today be the day that starts the rest of your life, seek advice like others answers have said and remember it is only you whom control your life and no-one else. Wishing you all the best.

Answer 3

You poor girl. You should be able to talk to a councillor who will help you to decide the best thing for you to do. Ask your doctor, or the clinic you are attending. This affects you a lot more than your boyfriend. It is your decision, not his. Only you can decide what is best for you. Remember that your relationship with the father may not work out even if you have the abortion he wants. This is probably the most difficult decision you will ever make, and it's at a time when your hormones are all over the place, so find someone who you can talk it over with. Good luck.

Answer 4

I know you are very scared but I believe you should have that child. Something about having a child is so beautiful. It is a blessing from the Lord, so denying that child life is a sin that you will regret for the rest of your life. I know what having an abortion can do to somebody. I had a very close relative go through that and she hasn't been the same since. It messed her up, mentally. She could never forgive herself.
Besides all that, you should have this baby even if that guy you are with don't want to be part of that baby's life.
If you feel that you cannot handle the responsibility, then at least allow your baby life and give it up for adoption. Allow that baby to be a blessing to a family that cannot have children of their own. Whatever you decide to do, please let your parents know. They may be able to support you in this situation. I wouldn't know what to do without my son. He is such a blessing in my life and in my families lives. Babies are so precious and such a wonderful gift from GOD.
I know you probably think that you are not ready, but I believe that you are. God wouldn't have blessed you with that bundle of joy if He knew that you were not ready. -It was no accident. Please consider having this baby.
I will say a prayer for you to seek the Lord with all your heart and make the right decision. -God Bless.

Psalm 139:13-16. For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; and in Your book were all written the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there was not one of them.

† Luke 1:15. For he will be great in the sight of the Lord; and he will drink no wine or liquor, and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit while yet in his mother’s womb.

† Jeremiah. 1:5. Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you.

† Proverbs 6:16-19 - There are six things which the LORD hates, yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood...

Answer 5

Do not do it. If you are old enough to have unprotected sex, you are old enough to take care of a baby. You said some key words, two other girls + two other babies. You will never have a relationship with this man, because your quilt will eat you alive, and he will move on when he gets tired of you, just like he did with the other two. You ask what are you going to do, you are going to have a baby and love it like you have never loved before. You are going to grow up and be a wonderful mother and look back on this and wonder how you could ever think of getting rid of a child. As far as loving the father, you couldn't love him to much if you could kill his child. The ultimate reflextion of love is looking at the child you had together. I'll tell you right now, he won't be there, just like the other two, because he only loves himself. You should never do something that will make you hate yourself, love yourself, and love that baby.

Answer 6

First thing is first, start wearing profelactics. Its a bit late now though. I suggest that you have a very long and very serious conversation with this guy about where his priorities are. I am sure that you are deeply in love with him, if you are in such a position, so he should be willing to let you make this decision. There are charitable groups that you can call, I dont know what country you are in so I am not too sure on who you should call, but make it a prsofessional. If you cant do that, then talk with the clinic. They will know what's what because they see this all the time. :)

Answer 7

Your Not Being Selfish..
In My Opinion... Don't Get Rid Of The Baby!! Its A Part Of You. Ignore Whats Going Through Your Mind. You Will Regret It :]
Good Luck :]

Answer 8

I know you said it was the wrong time but think about it your parents didnt get rid of you and a child is a gift. if you do get rid of it you will regret it because that is your innocent baby and the only thing you will think about is you killing your own child I feel like everything happens for a reason and maybe it will work out for the best...... Just keep praying and you will go in the right direction

Answer 9

You don't have to abort your baby. In fact, that would be the worst possible thing you could do for your emotional and physical well-being. Not only that, but it would take the life of your innocent son or daughter. Yes, your boyfriend's being a jerk, but please keep in mind that your baby is completely innocent in all of this and doesn't deserve to die. Please take a look at this information before you do something you will regret the rest of your life:

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
http://www.bcpinstitute.org/brochure.htm

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
US: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
International: http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Please be strong, and keep yourself AND your baby safe.

Answer 10

If a man has 2 other kids and does not care for them, he will not care for yours either. It comes down to if you are ready to take on the serious task of caring for a child on your own. Follow your heart, only you can make this choice. Once you do don't look back or second guess. Move foward and let the pass be the pass.

Answer 11

sweet heart look deep in to your heart and see how you and only you feel about this if any doubts pass our mind then please don't go through wiht your abortin, be strong as if he really does love you then he wouldnt want you to go through with it and would still support you if you wanted to continue with you pregnanc. i've had an abortion it was 8yrs ago now and huni its so hard and you will never forget. if your thinking of having it done as the easy way out then please think again as it's far form being easy. i have four children now and im not old, ha ha ha ive also had 2 miscarriges, i still some times think of my baby who i made go to heaven wondering what it would look like etc, i try not to but questions still go through my mind 8yrs down the line.my advice to you would be think very carfully and only do it if its what you really want but DON'T do it for a man i understand that you love him but men can come and go what ever you decide to do will be there for the rest of our life. NOone can beat the love between a mother and her baby/child you really shouldnt put a man befor youself our your childer as the day might come when you start to regret it. please ask your self this and think carefuly if you went through with the abortion and this so called mam left you how would you feel, would you regret having the abortion???????? my heart goes out to you darling as i know its hard but PLEASE THINK CARFULLY DEEP WITH IN YOUR HEART. do whats right for you not any one else, as you are the one who has to live with it every dat of your life. and to be honest he don't sound to be all that either. x x x x x