Hi, this 25 y/o guy I went on 4 dates with is asking me out to be his gf just to have sex with him. I didn't though. He went as far as claiming he is a virgin and asks me to crash over. He lied n played with my emotions at first and said he likes me. I found out his female friend (i know her) told him how i treated her cousin bad when we went out in HS, so she wants him to play me and she tried to convince me he is a good guy and not a player. They are plotting a subliminal payback. This sounds crazy but i am shocked too. Now, he is so desperate since he put in effort already, he says he is falling in love with me and he thinks i am buying it. Him and the grl think i'm so dumb i'm falling for his crap. How can i make him feel like crap? If he calls, should i ignore his calls or pick up & tell him "sry, i'm not interested in u" or confront "i know ur trying to get into my pants" but he will only deny? Or should i tell him he is a CREEP?
2007-11-25 21:32:24 · 17 answers · asked by Louisa C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kick them both to the curb all together. Who needs enemies with friends like them?
2007-11-25 21:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games. Why would you want to get involved in the playground stuff of paying a guy back or trying to make him feel like crap? That really would be dumb.
if you have anything to reproach yourself with, it's that you hurt someone so badly that years later he hasn't been able to move on from it, and the people who love him want to hurt you back. You're in a really powerful position here. You can be the one to break the cycle of hurt.
Why don't you tell the guy you dated that you don't want to spend any more time with him, and just leave it at that?
Then write to the guy you treated badly years ago and tell him you know you hurt him, you were very immature but now you've grown and you're sorry that things went wrong between you. Say you hope he's moved on as you have, and you wish him well for the future.
Scheming to hurt or pay back others is unworthy of a grown-up woman. It may work for a character in a cheap soap opera, but you're better than that.
2007-11-25 21:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Helen M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you like him too. Then get him to take you to a really nice dinner then movie. The movie should be something a guy would hate. Then during the movie, tell him you're going to the restroom, and ditch his ***. Leave him in the theater and take a cab home. Then tell everyone that knows him that he told you he has herpes. Print out fliers with his picture that say he has herpes and leave them in the theater. Put them on cars at his work. That will make him feel like crap. LOL.
2007-11-25 21:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by flesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him big time, you are better then him and if you confront him then he would probably get a big kick out of rubbing your face even more in the muck. His plan has not worked so you have not been payed back for anything, if you don't play their games then they have lost, don't lower yourself to their level by playing games back, be content with the fact their payback plan has not worked, to be honest neither are worth speaking to again and I would keep a dignified silence and have no more contact with either of them.
2007-11-25 21:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all men are trying to get in your pants - life lesson here
move along and ignore, silence is the best weapon
the sudden shutdown of communication will have him confused and he will but you - stay strong and ignore
i would yell at the girl though - everyone loves a good cat fight
2007-11-25 21:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by jayvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore his calls and try to end this relationship as soon as possible. I mean, this guy was just playing with you, he doesn't love you! Show him and his friend that you're not buying it. Show him he's not worth your love. This guy you're talking bout sounds as bad as a guy could get.
2007-11-25 21:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Just Silleh*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play along but not give on the "getting laid" part.
you should get your story straight and find out if it's true, if it is true that his playing, then pretend that you like him then look for somebody else who could protect you and say to his face that you know their plan.
that will be a double black eye for him, he didn't get you and he wasted his time, effort and money...
losers, what's with this kind of people huh.
2007-11-25 22:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by << jaguar >> 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is a 25 year old creep who needs to grow up.
2007-11-25 21:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are unhappy with this situation and feel so uncomfortable please keep arms length and let thing pass don't get involved in there little games stay clear and no don't say they are creeps don't make a situation worse just leave them and get on with life and hopefully the situation will disappear good luck Dave
2007-11-25 21:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. He is an immature as$hole, and you are tired of playing his game. Hang up, and avoid any future calls.
2007-11-25 21:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋