People that are middle aged (46 - 65 years).?

Question

Please Answer these question for me. this is for my homework. thanks.

1. what do you understand by the term 'midlife crisis'?
2. have you or a friend had a midlife crisis?
3. if you or your friend has had a midlife crisis, are you able to tell me what it was?
4. have you or your friend got over the crisis?
5.if you or your friend has got over the crisis, what helped you?
6. has the midlife crisis changed you or your friend anyway?

Answer 1

I'm 56 and staring 57 too closely for comfort.

1) A "midlife crisis" is when a mature adult reverts back in his/her mind to a more pleasant time when their was less stress (or handled better), felt attractive to him/herself and to the opposite sex, had feelings of accomplishments, felt could handle the world. Something has come up at this particular moment and the adult begins to panic about decisions made and ones to come.

2 & 3) I've had a midlife crisis where I wanted to have more children. I'd had a hysterectomy in my mid-20s and knew it was impossible, but still yearned for a newborn. I found myself looking at baby names books, clothing, resenting younger women with infants.

4 & 5)I got over my crisis when my daughter-in-law gave birth to my second grandson. I was with her throughout her labor which was excruciating for her to experience and for her mom and me to watch. Those last few hours of labor reminded me how much I disliked pain and how much I liked my naps and would have to sacrifice them with a baby. She had severe complications later and I knew I couldn't deal with them the way she did.

6) It's "matured" me to where I need to be which is my current age. I can look at infants and young women wanting to be mothers and appreciate what they face. But, I can also appreciate that I still have a long life ahead of me and as my grandsons grow up I can enjoy them in ways I never could as a harried, tired mother.

Answer 2

1 I think it is the sudden or gradual realisation that all is not right.
2 I know a few people who have
3 I just decided to give up full time work and bought a smaller place then I could work part time, I realised all I was doing was working to pay the bills on a big house I no longer wanted. I had a few months abroad then settled into a different life.
I have a friend who packed in work and went to Scotland, another abroad and one who just sold a business and works from home. I also know a few people who have left a long marriage to go off with a younger man. its not all boring over 40 you know.
4 The people I know are all settled now.
5 The help was in making the decision to do something, either by talking to friends or just sitting down and thinking things through.
6 Inevitably the personality had changed from a stressed out grump to a relaxed individual who has more time for the important things in life.

Answer 3

I am 54 and going through the Menopause (the Change). Some may say this is a crisis but I have not found it so. I think the term Mid Life Crisis os overrated and it is mind over matter. So long as you have your health, family and friends all is well with the world.

Answer 4

I'm 52 almost - can't say I've ever come close to a midlife crisis yet! Truthfully, I don't know any friends who have either! Sorry.

Answer 5

A typical mid life crisis is thinking that in spite of your high ambitions and efforts you are still in a job that has insufficient pay, insufficient rank, insufficient status and too much responsibility. Yes I have had one but that is now long past. Mine was as above. I got over it and changed from employee to self employed in a trade instead of a profession. I was helped by my own need to do something worthwhile and rewarding mentally, physically and financially. It made me in to a happier person. My weekly dose of headaches disappeared and I have never had another apart from the odd hangover since. Best of luck with your life and have a blessed Christmas.

Answer 6

i'm 53. had a midlife crisis, two yrs ago. i suddenly felt the whole of my life was pointless. something had to change, it was like i was coasting downhill to a meaningless old age. so i sold the house and bought a boat. never been happier!

Answer 7

I am 63 had my "mid life crisis" when I was 37 made a right old mess of my life - now all is well and good

Answer 8

I do not have a mid-life crisis and I'm 53.

Answer 9

I am 76.. What crisis? Am enjoying things.. Who wants to worry?

Answer 10

haven't had one since I was 28. Does that mean I'll only live til I'm 56? (only joking!)
Now I'm 46 NB and fitter, stronger, more virile, better hung, keep it up for longer, (and no! old men don't need viagra, it's just that old women are so damn ugly!!) more intelligent, (hmm!) reaping the benefits of the youth/experince combination. Come on life! gimme what you got! let's see who comes out on top!!!