I watch her for 6 hours on Mondays and Tuesdays. Every time she gets sick my sister inlaw blames me.I mean she got a runny nose after Thanksgiving and my sister inlaw is mad at me for her being sick now not the 22 other people that were there. I dont know if I should just tell her to find someone else to watch her or if she is just a nervous new mom and I am the easiest person to blame. Don't get me wrong I absolutely love watching my niece and consider it a privilege to do so. So what would you do if you were in this situation
2007-11-25 18:27:33 · 9 answers · asked by erin w 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My sister in-law and I are the Best of Friends also
2007-11-25 18:28:42 · update #1
I would talk to her and see if you two can work out the problem if not, then you know what you need to do.
2007-11-25 18:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by shorty82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't seem to be the best of friends if she's blaming you for her child's sicknesses. Don't put up with this. You are under no obligation to care for your niece. Tell your sister in law that she should find someone else - someone she's absolutely certain beyond all doubt won't make her kid sick. You sister-in-law seems a bit over-protective. If she's really worried about her kid getting sick then she should be the one giving the care.
2007-11-25 18:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 03:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem.What I did is I talked to her and told her how I felt.And when that did not work I then told her to find someone else.It was hard for me to do so but for the better.After about a month or so I say she came back to me saying how hard it was to find a babysitter and how much money it cost.Now I watch her again but only this time my sister in law understands that I love her like she was my own.Good luck hope this helps.
2007-11-25 20:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey Brown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're providing twelve hours of free care a week!?
Any chance you'd like to marry into my family? I have a very cute younger brother. :)
Just kidding. Seriously, she *should* be grateful and kind, but I think you're exactly right - she's a nervous new mom and she's taking her anxiety out on you. She's also probably sleep-deprived. It gets better. If she's still beating you up in a few weeks, talk to her. But for now, you're a good friend - and aunt - if you can let some of it roll off your back.
2007-11-25 23:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think you should try speaking to her. As new moms, we tend to be overprotective of our babies, and over-react. My SIL helps me with cleaning my little girl's bottles and sterilize them. One day I got home and of the bottles in the sterilizer had lots of milk stains on it. I was SO angry because she obviously did not wash them properly. I didn't know what to do as I don't want her to feel bad about helping, but I still went ahead and showed her the dirty bottle(i didn't shout or get mad at her). She stopped helping with the washing for about a week, and I didn't ask her about it. After a week, she started washing them again, this time, paying more attention and making sure they are clean!
Since you are such best friends with your SIL (as I am with mine), maybe just try and explain to her how it makes you feel when she gets upset with you. Tell her you are willing to watch your niece and would really love to. but if she'd rather get another person to watch her, she can do so and you would not take it personally. Also, on your part, maybe you could try to keep baby warmer, or pay a little more attention (not to say you are being sloppy or anything).Good luck!
2007-11-25 20:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by sweetDove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and tell her it's ok for kids to get sick it helps them build immunity and since they dont have immune systems built up yet no matter what she does her kid is going to get sick it's ok
tell her it hurts that she blames you but your happy to watch your niece your just tired of being blamed for something that is not anybodys fault but just happens
2007-11-25 18:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your sister in law and you are "best of friends" then you can tell her how you feel....
in a nice way.
take care.
2007-11-25 18:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you watch her?
2007-11-25 19:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Canute 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋