Why do I have a problem asking out richer girls?

Question

First off, I'm 17, in my junior year of high school, and I know right now it shouldn't matter yet, but I was just wondering how I can overcome this.
Every once in a while I will start to like a girl a lot, but later on if I find out she is rich, I have trouble asking her out. I am middle class, and not really close to the poorer or richer side. What is it that makes me so hesitant to try asking out these girls and what can I do to fix this problem?

Answer 1

you probably dont' think you can satisfy her with what she might expect. Just be confident and show you can control the situation, avoid the money thing all together if you can, and if she really digs ya it won't matter

Answer 2

Perhaps you feel inferior or feel that her parents will look down on you. Remember that you are not yet what you will become. Are you headed for college and a career that will provide a good income? Not every rich girl wants to live the rest of her life as a rich person. Some gals just want to be a normal person, marry an average man and have a normal life. Also, do consider other good points you have and good or bad points that a girl has and you may realize that wealth is not the only thing that counts, not the only way to make a girl happy. It may be risky to ask a rich girl for a date, but if you really do love her, you will never know if you can make her happy unless you take the risk of finding out.

Answer 3

First of all, remember one thing if you don't remember anything else: a rich girl's money does not make her worthy to be your friend, your date or your girlfriend. Just like anyone else, they can be rude, unappreciative and without compassion. Some hide their insecurities behind their parents' accomplishments and have no real agenda of their own. Some ridicule and humiliate others who are not in their socioeconomic class in order to elevate their own shallow self-esteem. Do not ... I repeat ... do not judge anyone by the money they have. You want to know how to fix this problem? Do what Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said so eloquently in his "I Have a Dream" speech: judge by the content of their character. You'll find out it's not what's in their bank account that matters. It's how they treat you and respect you. You can find a girl whose family is poor, but she is rich in how she regards you. Don't confuse money with character. The two do NOT go together.

Answer 4

Inferiority complex?

Or perhaps you were humiliated or embarrassed by some rich girl years back?

Good news is, alot of 'princesses' nowadays are not as haughty as the media projects them to be. Guys are lucky the streets aren't crawling with Paris Hiltons and Nicole Richies, and if you had been mistreated, chances are the next won't be as bad.

Just treat them like normal girls, it's just a psychological barrier on your own part and I believe no one else except you can overcome it with your own determination. Keep trying to disregard the fact they are 'princesses' and muster the courage to give that one shot to ask them out.

When they agree to that first date, you are well on your way to recovery :)

Answer 5

Don't be intimidated by how much money or stuff the girl has. Just ask her out. If she likes you then your own middle class situation shouldn't bother you. Rich people are not really any different from everyone else. After all, we all put our shoes on one foot at a time.

Answer 6

You have to realize that they are not rich at all, their parents are. They are just young adults the same as you and at this point in their lives they probably don't care to much about money. When you get older the way to solve this problem is to be rich.

Answer 7

Because you don't want to seem like the "lesser" of the two.

In any case, money or any type of material things shouldn't have any effect on how you choose to feel for a person because when you strip them of everything they have...they're nothing but who they are! Does that make sense?

Answer 8

Same thing happens to me. The sunlight glancing off their endless supply of diamonds and diamond-encrusted objects is disorienting, and this in term tends to make you dazed, somewhat like a deer in headlights.

Answer 9

dude u gotta gain confidence, and stop feeling inferior to others it will only make situations worse and you really cant do anything my suggestion is to keep hanging out with girls until you have the heart and balls to walk up to a genuine girl

Answer 10

You might feel you don't deserve to go with a rich girl?/
I think if you are a great guy, you should stop that and ask.