how do i get my teen to listen to me about her no good boyfriend.?

Answer 1

There is no easy way.

Teenagers think that the parents are always trying to control them. So, the more you tell them not to do something, the more they will do it.

Teenagers will always take on a challenge. If you tell them it will fail, it cannot be done, the more they will want do it to prove you wrong.

So, the reversed psychology is to let them try it out and be there if they need you. Sometimes, they have to learn it the hard way. Parents will be very uncomfortable with this because as parents, it is a basic instinct to protect their children, even when they are teenagers and even when they are adults.

Someone said. "Teenagers need more love (from parents), especially if they don't deserve it."

So, the basic problem is:
Teenagers can't stop being teenagers; and
Parents, can't stop being parents.

Answer 2

Without details it's hard to know why he is no good.
Getting a boyfriend your family will disapprove of is a typical teenage move. They do it to test the boundaries or simply because teenagers are always trying to rebel in some way.

Your teen won't listen to you because she views you as too old and out of touch to "understand her." Here are some alternative ideas:

- get a adult she respects to try and tell her he is no good, maybe an auntie or good friend of yours.
- talk to her friends and see if they approve, if not, suggest they help out and convince her he is no good.
- really include him in your family. be over accepting. invite him over for dinner, talk about how much you like him. This is risky but works well, using reverse psychology will ruin your teens need to rebel because her actions are getting no reaction
- whatever you do DONT pull the "its him or us" move. She will most likely rebel further and you could lose her.

GoodLuck xx.

Answer 3

The question is, what makes him "no good"? You could be seeing him from a mothers point of view rather then from a lusty teenagers point of view.
If he's into drugs and heavy drinking, things like that, then you should make sure to keep your daughter away from him.
But if he's not on drugs or drinking and doesn't abuse your daughter and you just have other reasons for believing he is no good, then you have to let her make her own mistakes and learn from experience in her relationships.
Remember when you were a teen...

Answer 4

I am going through the SAME thing BUT my daughter is 21, just had a baby for him on Wednesday, and he will NEVER put a ring on her finger.... Thank God though!
I was told tonight that I am NOT allowed to go to 'his' house to see my daughter or granddaughter. He is controlling her and his butt is ALL MINE when I do see him.
Bad part is she knows how we feel about him BUT only SHE can make the decision to leave his sorry, cheating butt.
Talking to your daughter is only pushing her closer to him, please trust me on that.
I am living it!! Saw my granddaughter the day she was born and haven't seen her or my daughter since!!! 4 days! I miss them and want to help but HE won't allow it.
I know it is going to hurt you but, unless he is not harming her mom, you are going to have to let her see through him on her own. And she will, it just might take more time than you are wanting to wait.
My heart breaks for you b/c we are in the same boat, with the exception your daughter is a teen and mine is and ignorant, blind 21 year old. He cheats on her and she knows it but.....
'She wants her "family". There is NO family if it's one sided!!!
She wasn't raised like that, I taught her better but she'll have to learn just like your daughter.
Good Luck,
From another mom who doesn't like the b/f!!!!

Answer 5

You start when she is about 6 months old, teaching her to listen to and respect what you say, and teaching her that "No-no" MEANS no-no, and that "Perhaps" doesn't always mean yes. And that when the two of you have different opinions, she is to respect and defer to yours because you are experienced and know how to take the best care of her (and her future).

Answer 6

good luck sweetie, you said teen...and no good boyfriend in the same sentence luck is all u got...teenagers dont listen and thats been proven...if u bother her to much she will become rebellious and stay with him just cause it bothers you.But out and let her learn her own lesson

Answer 7

she is listening
shes just not deciding to act upon it

as a parent you want the best for your kids
its easier said than done
but its times like these that you need to let them go
and if in the end its a mistake, then be there for a shoulder to cry on..

if they were getting married than thats a different story

Answer 8

She has to learn that herself.

Would you listen to me talk about the guy you were in love with? No.

Answer 9

just tell her dont let her leave the room and say
that hes gonna end up using her
and tell her shes just going to get her heart broken

and after telling her this and she sees him again
ground her dont let her talk on the phone or go on the comp

trust me i knew a really sweet girl in 8th
she dated the wrong guys and now shes a pot smoking screw up
and shes a sexually loose person


so yah ground her

"dont give her enough rope to hang herself"

Answer 10

the more you try. the more she'll want him. let her learn on her own. this of course depends on why he is no good. in the case of him being an abuser, well then take her on a field trip to a womans shelter.