My partner and i broke up last thursday. We had been together for just over 4 years. My partner had been under alot of stress with work, studies and organiseing and buying xmas presents for her family. We where supposed to be attending my cousins wedding this weekend which my partner wasn't to inthusiastic about. My cousins fiance and i have always got on well and my partner has often been jelouse of this.
We broke up cos she said she doesn't know if she still loves me like she used too!
We parted on good terms and i havn't been in contact since we broke up cos everyone has told me to give her space and let her work her thoughts out.
I want her back as i love her with all my heart and beleive we are ment to be together.
Firstly have i done the right things so far? and
how much time may she need?
2007-11-25 16:56:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you broke up on thanksgiving day?...that's sad. anyways, it's high time for you to make contact again...skip the drama...just tell her - "hey, i just wanna touch base with you..just wanna know that you're alright." that's it...and then let nature take its course. good luck.
2007-11-25 17:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you she is questioning the depth of her love for you, then she probably does need to be alone for a while to see if she misses you and wants to try again. We often don't know how we really feel when we are in a situation and sometimes distance helps us sort out our feelings. Sometimes though a relationship just runs its course and it flounders when the newness and excitment has dwindled.
Be aware however, that there could be reasons she wanted to end things that she is not telling you. She may have met someone else....not necessarily that she is having an affair with, but someone that has captured her interest.
If you are serious about wanting to reunite don't wait too long before contacting her, but if she tells you she isn't ready to see you again, don't pressure her. You can't make someone love you if they have decided to move on.
2007-11-26 01:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you still want to be together with her, but also go do your own thing. Be willing and there for her, but if it continues where she still doesnt want to see you. dont drop everything for her. She will most likely love being single and also having you on and the side and she will take advantage of it.It will be like the best of both worlds. Go out and do your own thing, its super hard but you will meet so many people and you might end up that you can carry conversations and have feelings for other girls without feeling guilty.
2007-11-26 01:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sad! I'd wait a month, then send a short note in the mail expressing your feelings without being invasive. I'd wait a week after that, then try to call. Beyond that, she might ding you for being a stalker, so I'd back off if you're not well received. I wish you happiness.
2007-11-26 01:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe give her a month? If it takes her longer than that to contact you, then let her go and make it HER loss. No one should wait around for another person to drop some scraps so we can lick them off the ground. Value yourself.
2007-11-26 01:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by ღ♥Jess♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing, she seems really stressed. give her, her space. i know how it is, you been with her for 4 years, its normal because u were very close to her, but u can find another girl, its very common when someone breaks up they want the girl or guy back but after awhile u'll forget about him or her or u might get back with her u never know its like a haunted house and rollercoaster, u never know whats gonna happen and there are its ups and downs
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2007-11-26 01:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ledzeppelin324 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been together for 4 years ,why parted so nasty?don't you think it is a pity. maybe after a few days,she will be calm.i hope you guy can go to find her ,because i can see how much you love her.just go to get her back,or you will be regretful.if you want to keep you two in a better condition,you may go to this web(http://www.interracialmatch.com/photo/gallery2),you will understand love better. wish good luck!
2007-11-26 01:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you go back together, it would cause more drama. If she say she doesn't want to come back and you want to come back, it will become more severe. Just continue your life and forget about her. Let say start a new story
2007-11-26 01:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Stephen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in love with her and is she in love with you? Do either of your bring in real passion to your relationship?
How much time may she need you ask? Maybe a lifetime.
2007-11-26 01:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a hard situation
you can tell her how you feel and be there for her
and then move on if it doesnt work out and be her friend which can be rewarding too
2007-11-26 01:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋