We have been on and off for about one year now and I love him, but I am not sure if he feels the same way because he does not really show it. What should I do?
2007-11-25 15:55:08 · 43 answers · asked by Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well ppl said that i didnt do that w/ my gf
but i was
i called her evrynite and talked to her
spent everyday with her
hugged her
and chose her over my friends
and they still said i didnt show my love for her
mayb u should think bout it again
or he just feels shy around u when other ppl are around
it happened to me the first 6 mo lol
2007-11-25 15:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by dgkboy510 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you are innocent until proven guilty ! If he says he loves you, he probably does love you. As ladies show their feelings more than men. Yes I do agree that ladies need to be made aware that they are being loved. And this could be in many different ways. Communication is very important..maybe you should tell him what you feel, as he may not be aware they you're missing out on his love for you in whatever way you feel. At times you have to talk to your man and let him know what you feel about you relationship / feelings etc. After talking with him you see no response or changes, well then you may be right. Communication is vital in any relationship. And one should give someone a chance to proove themselves.
2007-11-25 16:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to find that answer in your heart. He may actually love you, even if he is not good at showing it. But what you have to ask yourself is whether you are willing to put up with that. You deserve the best, and there are guys out there who would go to the end of the world for you. I understand that when you have feelings for someone, it's easy to let the bad things slide, but if you really feel he doesn't love you, then you might want to keep your options open. Write down all of the pros and cons of your relationship. Which one weighs more? Can you deal with his aloof attitude? Only you can answer that.
2007-11-25 15:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys dont really show how much they love or care for the girl as much as they should. Us girls are always showering guys with like little things to show them how much we care and its obvious too.
You should talk to him though, ask him whats up and tell him how you feel. However, if it has been because of him that you two have been on and off then he doesnt know what he wants. If it was a mutual decision to be on and off for a while then I suppose thats a diff. story.
Either way talk to him.
2007-11-25 16:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, you must first ask yourself if you really love him. The fact that you stated "on and off for a year..." personally means there are means that we don't know about.
As of what I read, I personally think he is not showing you he cares in the way you want him too.
More information on this subject could help, though.
2007-11-25 16:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dick Derrell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Sorry, I know it's not that easy. I was in your spot once upon a time, & after almost 15 years of off & on I still can't get a grasp of where I stand. It's not worth it. I'm currently dating, but with him as one of the guys I'm seeing, it's hard to let myself get attached to someone else. He's a great guy & I can't seem to give up on us, but I would never wish this on someone else. Really, you should talk to him, be very clear about how you feel & what you want. If he can't give it to you, find someone who will. Don't be a romantic fool like me.
2007-11-25 16:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, especially guys, do not know how to show their true feelings or be able to say "I love you". I had a Dad that never told me, but about twice in my life that he loved me. And, he hardly showed it. But, if you are that uncertain, then you need to sit with him, and have a long heart to heart talk with him. He should at least tell you somehow. But, do this when just the two of you, are alone together.
2007-11-25 16:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by denise 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
on and off for a year is a long time
are you saying that he NEVER take you out to dinner or buy you flowers or compliment you?
are you saying he NEVER sit with you and cuddle up and watch a movie?
are you saying he NEVER comes to you, out of the blue and say how much he loves you?
are you saying he NEVER do those little things to show his love toward you?
if the above questions are answer with yes.........
then he is lying or just don't know how to show or express his love.
sorry but i hope all goes well
2007-11-25 16:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by LITTLE_JOHN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys are on and off, there's a possibility he's still having fun or looking around during "off" season. Talk to him about it, let him know how you feel and where you would your relationship to go. If he loves you, he'll consider it and talk to you about what he wants and how he feels. If he can't commit to it right now,then he's not ready for you and all this will do in the end is hurt you and waste your time.
2007-11-25 16:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by June C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't necessarily mean he's lying, maybe just means that he doesn't express his love in the same way you do. I've been married 18 years and I still don't know what my wife wants me to say or how she wants me to show it. Guys are like that, you have to learn to put up with our caveman behavior.
2007-11-25 16:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by martinthurn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋