Im 17 and i have dated a few guys in my life... the ones that ive dated i liked alot and always got those butterfly feelings and that love struck stuff... but the boyfriend i have now.. i have like for a long time and never thought i would have a chance with him and whenever i saw him i got those feelings but we never really talked... now that we are dating i dotn get those feelings... i really do like him i mean i LOVE HIM! its almost been 2 months now... but y dont i get those feelings inside like i did with the other guys???????
2007-11-25 15:04:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go with your feelings
2007-11-25 15:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you were feeling before was infatuation -- it's a chemical high we feel when we get a crush on someone. However, the chemicals wear off in time, and as the relationship goes on, our passionate feelings turn into ones that are more like an especially close friendship. It's not a bad thing -- every relationship goes that way eventually. Assuming there's more there than infatuation to begin with, that is.
Besides, you're only 17. At that age, few of us are emotionally ready for serious relationships -- we flit from attraction to attraction. Which is perfectly natural.
2007-11-25 23:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*note*take any advice from strangers with suspicion since we have no idea with the situation
but i think you may have liked him or maybe you just thought he was attracted now that the initial attraction has worn out and it is now chemistry that fuels the relationship it seems that yall dont have the chemistry and that yall arent meant to be anything on a romantic level... the initial butterflies was probably initial attraction
more scientifically there are 2 types of feelings for a person lust and love (lust isnt necessarily wanting to have sex but merely physically liking someone or being attracted to someone)
the inital lust has worn off and now its time for love and there isnt any so there arent any butterflie... tell him its been fun but you dont feel like there is enough between yall to have a future. tell him what you told us about not feeling "the butterflies" and tell him its not his fault but you dont feel yall have a connection that is deeper than the initial attraction
OK TO QUALIFY MY ARGUMENT... if you think you love him the butterflies may be what many of the others have suggested and as just nerves. It may be you are just more comfortable but if these butterflies are the sparks, the energy, the fuel of the relationship take my advice above (this also includes the note about being careful about advice)
2007-11-25 23:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by aubyt590 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The butterflies were because you were nervous and you are more comfortable around him now but at 17 you still should not rush into a more serious relationship because he may still not be the one you will end up with. There is a good site I give a lot of people regarding happiness so I will give you a link to that and perhaps that will help. Good Luck!
2007-11-25 23:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you don't get the same feelings with your boyfriend because now that you have been dating him for a while you are secure. Girls often have this same problem-while they are crushing on someone they feel butterflies and nervousness, and then they date them and feel comfortable. If you want to add a little more risk into your relationship, try cosmogirl.com's kissing ideas.
Good luck!
2007-11-25 23:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feelings you are talking about are normal at the beginning of a relationship. They go away after awhile but love grows slowly over time.
2007-11-25 23:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by beloved7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The initial rush of first meeting has worn off. This is normal. Now is when you decide if you really like him as a person and want to stay with him.
2007-11-25 23:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by monicanena 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are getting a different feeling but you don't know how to recognize the feeling and it is making you nervous
2007-11-25 23:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by babyoutrigger99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this one is a keeper.
2007-11-25 23:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by benejueves 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋