Wedding date issues.?

Question

My fiance' previously agreed with my idea of a May wedding with lilac, pale silver, and white for colors. Now he isn't so sure that he wants a spring wedding, and is favoring fall. I love fall as a season, but not for weddings. Where we live the weather isn't always nice, and I'm not fond of fall colors in a wedding i.e. red, orange, etc. And my spring color scheme definitely couldn't be used for fall...could it? *Sigh.* I really had my heart set on May.

Oh, he definitely doesn't have cold feet. See we gave ourselves a year to two and a half range, so it would be '09 or later. I would love winter, but that would really cut down on who could come since we live in the mountains.

Chad L, obviously I don't need to learn compromise since I'm on here to find one.

He hates summer....And I have sat down with him, but he's such an in-the-moment kind of person that have him plan anything is like pulling teeth.

Answer 1

jjudijo I completely agree with you! Talk to him and tell him how much you had your heart set on a may wedding. You would be surprised how much they will agree with if you just talk about it!

Answer 2

I would not change the color scheme of your wedding with the exception of making the purple a little more rich, or the silver a little more bright. To be honest though, the colors dont make the wedding. That is a small thing that can be altered in any direction to please you both. The colors you have now to be honest as well, are just fine for fall...

If your fiance has his heart set on the fall, would he be willing to compromise to the beginning, rather then near the end so that the weather would be more complimenting for the occasion? The badder the weather, the less guests will be able to attend.

My wedding date changed from winter to fall to summer all within a 6 month period. I finally laid it out on the line that there will be no more changing of the dates. I wanted it warm enough for guests to come, but cool enough so they werent dying outside. We chose the first weekend in June after all deliberations. What worked best with me was that i told him it was cheaper to do it then instead of waiting even a week or two later, when wedding season is in full swing.

Answer 3

You still can use them. Perhaps upgrade the lilac to a deep purple, or change the silver to a gold or chocolate brown? Or keep them as it is. You don't HAVE to keep colors with the season, just that most brides do.

Why is he changing? Make sure when you pick your wedding date that it works for years and years. I'm a teacher so even though I think spring would be lovely for my wedding it's horrible because of what's going on at work. I would have trouble really blocking out time to celebrate later on after the wedding.

Look on the bright side. If you have a fall wedding you'll save some dough since it's the off season. :P

Answer 4

Love is stronger than the ceremony. The main point of the wedding is that you two can be married in front of your friends, family, and relatives. The season for the wedding is only minor, as long as you love each other, and want to be together. Some couples who don't have a lot of financial resources end up with very simple wedding, but they live a really loving life, enjoying each other, and celebrating every moment in life together. Don't get too stress about details of the wedding. It should be a really sweet and enjoyable experience for you.

Relax, and talk with your fiance. I am sure you two will come to an understanding. As long as you want to be together, any season is a good time for a wedding.

Good luck! I wish you a beautiful wedding.

Answer 5

No the colors you picked aren't exactly fall but you could compromise for a summer wedding, early summer before it gets to hot, but the weather varies depending on where you live. I personally never want to get married in may, but I was born that month so I was never that into the idea. But also your colors especially the silver and white would look good for December and January, but you have to like the season.

Answer 6

You need to sit down and come to an agreement with your fiance. It is not the end of the world if you don't get your way; but the important thing is that you can talk about it and make a decision together, since it is a wedding for the two of you. And don't get so worried about the "colors" - what is important is the marriage itself; don't worry so much about the wedding and the decorations. I am sure you can be very creative and adaptable when you find the right rationale. There are thousands of colors out there - but only one of your fiance.

Answer 7

Hi. Personally, and it's just me...I'm thinking that brides are too caught up in the "color" thing. Yes, you don't want to have a pale yellow perhaps in mid-February if you live in Minnesota. But what's wrong with lilac, silver, and white in the fall? I think it would still work! Or...if you have not already ordered the gowns, you could go with a darker purple color.

It seems that you are concerned about the colors, so I am assuming that you don't have any deposits down that you would lose if you change the date to the fall?

In any case, I think you could still go with the colors you have for the fall. My personal opinion, though.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Set him down and talk to him. Most guys understand that the women look forward to this day more then any other day! Tell him how you feel and give him the sad eyes (only if that works). Let him know that you have dreamed of a May wedding with your colors and him beside you. Also tell him all of the plans for the wedding that you have come up with. Also tell him your fear of how the weather may not be all that you dreamed of on your wedding day and how much you would love the sun to shine on you. If that don't work, just order the invitations and send him one! (lol)

Answer 9

Theres a lot of spring colors out there...

And you don't HAVE to use fall colors if you get married in the fall...esp if you aren't getting married outside...i think its fun when a couple creates a scene for their guests....like if its 10 degrees outside...but the reception has a tropical feel, the guests can get away from the real world outside...or creating a winter wonderland when its summer outside...you can use this opportunity to let your imagination go wild and have any kind of wedding YOU want regardless of the season of the wedding date.

Hope that doesn't sound too silly to you...its just a diff way of looking at it...you get your colors and he gets the date

Answer 10

Why does he want a fall wedding now? He isn't getting cold feet is he? I mean to push a date from the beginning of the year to the end of the year. Either way, your wedding will be beautiful with the colors you've chosen despite the season. I got married in December and it was cold but my day turned out perfect. I wish you the best!

Answer 11

I'm sitting here and wondering if there is a deeper issue here that you might want to ask him about.

Why does he want to get married in the fall, instead of the spring? Is there a reason that he is not yet ready to get married?

My concern is this: while the color scheme may make the day more perfect for you, what is important is what happens the day after you return from your honeymoon and from that point onward. Before you set a date, make sure that you both are willing to make the commitment for a permanent and loving relationship.