She wears makeup on it but it doesnt really hide it and she's obviously uncomfortable with the stares and whispers,
2007-11-25 14:47:32 · 14 answers · asked by saramae1980 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
be there as her friend, i had to have surgery before near my scalp and while it was healing i did end up having 2 black eyes, and was really self conscious about it. I don't know your co-worker or what her situation is, it could be totally different, but im sure she is just uncomfortable about it.
Be there as her friend, if she wants to talk to you about it, just make sure you can do it in a place and a way perhaps away from some of the others who are making her uncomfortable. Ask her to have lunch with you or just give her a reassuring smile or something to let her know you are there for her.
But she knows she has a black eye, and knows others know, so try and not to make her feel self conscious about it. But if it is something serious, she may need a friend for advice to talk to, so just be there for her.
2007-11-25 15:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ginger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing a person can go through in this situation is the "stares and whispers." People should either be straightforward and ask how the person got the black eye, but be willing to back down if they're uncomfortable talking about it, or they should just continue about business as usual.
2007-11-26 07:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's uncomfortable with the stares and whispers, then for crying out loud quit staring and speculating. You should either ignore it or else ask her about it.
2007-11-25 15:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by noname 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell the jerks who are whispering about her to stop it. And just act like her face is as normal as anyone else's. The more you make a big deal out of it the more it will make her feel self conscious.
2007-11-25 14:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Z. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to ignore it and think about how you act around her if she didn't have a black eye.
If you think that something fishy is going on, you should gently ask her about it, but not right away. If she gets really defensive, drop it. (Attempt to bring it up once more, but don't push it. If she doesn't want to talk about it, continually asking her will just push her away. If you really think something is wrong -- and you aren't just being paranoid or worrisome -- report it.)
Just look her in the eye, and talk to her like you usually do. It will make her feel better that you aren't thinking about her face being messed up. Just try not to focus on it.
2007-11-25 14:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by Maybur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her what happened. It can't be that bad to just ask, it's better than the whispers. She probably could use someone to talk to anyway. Good luck.
2007-11-25 14:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't going to be easy. I am assuming you are concerned and are willing to help her if she asks for it? If this is the first time you have seen any signs of physical abuse then don't assume it is abuse. If it is abuse, then don't participate in the stares and whispers but let her know you are available to talk if it's needed. Otherwise, ask HR to handle it.
2007-11-25 14:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by Suzanne S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't stare and whisper. Treat her just as you would any other time.
2007-11-25 15:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend that some ungrateful bastard has punched you in the eye and has left you with a black eye, and imagine what that would make you feel like because of your new temporary appearance.
2007-11-25 14:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by gunslinger 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore it. If she wants to talk about it she will. I have had them too and did not want to have a lot of people asking what happened to you.
2007-11-25 14:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋