I just met a young lady at work a few days before she was leaving for another job. Before she left I told her that I wished that I could have worked with her more and that I wished that I could get to know her better. I asked her for her number, and she gave it to me very willingly. Actually I was surprised that she was so responsive; and now I'm feeling a bit nervous. (Go figure).
I want to call her; but I don't want to cross that thin line and seem to eager by calling right away.
(You know, girls don't seem to like guys that are too eager).
Should I wait a few days so I seem nonchalant?
Or should I go for it right away like a hunter?
It seems like no matter how old I get, I still don't know how to approach the girls.
2007-11-25 14:38:34 · 48 answers · asked by negrito con sabor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Such a tough question...it really depends on the girl and your relationship with her. If I was the girl and I was interested in you at all, I would want you to call within 24-72 hours the first time and then not again for a few days so I didn't freak out that you were going to begin stalking or smothering me.
2007-11-25 14:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by jurenpamis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to cross "what thin line??? Too eager?" Don't you know anything about communication? There's nothing wrong with just calling to see how the new job went today... whether you make a date or not. (Talk about 10 minutes, then excuse yourself; call again the next night). Keep in touch. If you do that, you can judge for yourself when to ask her out. If you want a date for Saturday night, then call her Wednesday sometime to give her plenty of time to prepare, (yourself too). I say.... go for it like a hunter, dude. lol
2007-11-25 14:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait at least two days then call to go for a coffee (tea, ice cap, whatever). Pick a no pressure spot, maybe something close to where you both used to work together, which is familiar territory to both of you. Take it from there, see if there's a connection. If so, see if she's interested in going out again. Also, give her your digits at that time.
As to approaching the girls, you need to chillax. Remember, no matter how gorgeous-stunning-oh-my-God they may look, they're still human beings. They like to be treated as such. Attractive girls are ALWAYS being hit on so they know they're attractive, and they know the types of reactions they get from someone who is flustered by their looks. I know it's tough, but try to see past the looks and get to know her better as a human being. Don't try to impress her. Act as if you were with a "bud". Be yourself.
Good luck!
2007-11-25 14:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by thorswolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a lady,but I have seen a lot. You may want to wait 2-3 days after you got her number. If you wait to long she will not seem interested if she is right now. You should set up a date with her maybe. Get to know her better. If you go to a movie you should go to one she wants to see. Don't choose the movie yourself though you'll seem pushy. You must pay for a lot of things on dates. If you can't afford it you better get some money fast.
2007-11-25 14:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you talked to her last week, then call her on Thursday and remind her who you are and ask if she can meet for lunch, or after work for a drink etc. Then just ask what day would be convenient for her, and go from there.....
Peronally I think it is nice when i meet a guy for him to call with a few days. I don't expect him to call the next day, you are right it might look desperate. But if a guy waits too long you tend to think he was waiting for something better to come along. Good Luck
2007-11-25 14:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call her on a Saturday. She seemed just fine with giving you her number, so she must feel comfortable with you. Just waiting til the weekend respects her space during the week when she might be more busy, since you are just starting to get to know each other. Call her up and ask her out for something simple, like a coffee shop date or lunch, the same day. That way you won't have too long to be nervous about it waiting for the day to arrive. Good luck!
2007-11-25 14:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by ViSaja 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the best time for a gentleman to contact me is the next day. Most women I know despise the "waiting game" and that often puts people - myself included - straight off.
If she gave you her number quite willingly then she evidently likes you too. What is the point in putting off something that could be the start of something beautiful? If you are still in doubt why don't you try texting her instead of calling her to ease yourself in and assess the situation a bit more.
I hope this helps and good luck ! :)
2007-11-25 14:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met on a Saturday night and he waited until Tuesday...the 3 day rule. But itmade since, you don't want to call the day after, way to eager and Monday is a busy day for many so Tuesday is the best day. Also call from the times of 7 and 9...I miss dating! ;)
2007-11-25 14:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by flyrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her in 2 days.
2007-11-25 14:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by Pen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call within 3 days just to check and see how she's doing in her new job. Keep it casual; nothing too serious. Towards the end of the conversation, suggest you get together sometime for lunch, dinner, whatever seems not too serious. Just don't press too soon and don't expect too much too soon. Take it easy and enjoy each step; each moment.
2007-11-25 14:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋