My friend currently has a boyfriend...?
whom she has been with for 4 years...She started working with a good friend of hers, who happens to be engaged...(No wedding plans though...) They ended up kissing and then he told her that he just wanted to be friends, and didnt want to do anything to jeopardize their friendship, and 2 days later ended up making the move to kiss her again! WHat do I tell her to do? It's obvious that neither of them are happy in their current relationships or they wouldnt have cheated...I don't know what to tell her, Im a a loss of words, help!!
2007-11-25 14:31:37 · 26 answers · asked by Sillycat!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her nothing. A kiss is not a big deal.
2007-11-25 14:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tony A 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't generalize about the engaged men part, your friend is equally to blame.
She is obviously not happy in her relationship, if she is allowing other men to kiss her.
They both have problems in their respective relationships, but should either end the relationships and move on or leave each other alone....
Tell her she is to blame, as well as the guy. She may not see it that way or like it, but that is the truth.
2007-11-25 22:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you cant tell her what to do,but you can be there as a friend to listen to her concerns.
What you can say to her is that you are realy concerned that she will get hurt because he is engaged, and she has a boyfriend. you can tell her that you think what she is doing isnt right.
Now, on the other hand if neither of them is no longer interested in there relationships, then they should tell the other people so that they can move on with there lifes.and then if the two of them want to get together they will at least be doing it without cheating on there partners or wasteing there partners time
2007-11-25 22:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by country_girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that they have had a thing between the two of them for awhile and just never explored it.....maybe til now? She obviously consented to it esp since it happened twice. Of course this does not make it right but its possible he is wanting to see if there is something else there and doesnt know how to say it.
This may be one of those things where the best action is no action....and thats hard to do sometimes, but if she is willing to throw aside her 4 year relationship with someone whos engaged then your entering into the mix with advice maybe rewarded rather coldly....sometimes we have to let people make their own mistakes.
Hope this helps!
2007-11-25 22:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like neither of them are ready for a serious relationship. If they are both just looking for a little thrill, it will die a natural death. She might want to consider the impression he and others will have of her when the game is over. This guy should not be trusted in a serious relationship!
2007-11-25 22:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not your problem unless its you we are talking about in which case its time to move on from your current relationship to pursue this one but remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. In other words it may be exciting now but you may be making a terrible mistake and there will be no going back.
Good Luck
2007-11-25 22:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by BILL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a bit of thrill in doing something you shouldn't be doing. These engagements must not mean much to either person if they are playing games behind their intendeds backs. If I were you, I'd stay out of it. This sounds like it could blow up into a big tadoo.
2007-11-25 22:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that It's obvious that neither of them are happy in their current relationships or they wouldnt have cheated and maybe she shoud reevaluate what she's doing. or if she just made a mistake then she needs to tell the other guy where she stands
2007-11-25 22:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they should consider marriage couseling to find out whats to do, but its not really marriage, more like BF Gf kinda thing. My sister is one. If you want to ask her for advice i can give you her public email. I think the best thing you can do is try to either make your friend stop or tell her boyfriend.Or say "its either you tell him or i tell him if you don't stop!" I mean if you were being cheated on you'd want to know. It clear they're unhappy, so you want your friend to be happy. Sooo.. Yea
2007-11-25 22:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She must not be happy with her boyfriend or she wouldn't be tempted to cheat, and he is the wrong person to cheat with because if he is cheating on his future wife he is going to cheat with her if they were to become a couple. She needs perhaps to raise her self esteem and find someone else. I will give you a site she should visit and perhaps that may help her.
2007-11-25 22:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is asking for trouble. A typical home-wrecker. Tell her to leave the engaged guy alone.
2007-11-25 22:37:12 · answer #11 · answered by harryb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋