Ten months ago i made a new friend and within four months I had fallen in love with him. What would you?

Question

I told him I had fallen for him and although he was fine with it initially, long story short, things got difficult and through jealousy and anger i became aggressive and critical of him and itgot quite heated via email.

We are both gay and in our thirties.

We stopped being friends and although we were both at fault, I take most of the responsibility for initiating the hostility between us.

This all happened four months ago and I sentt him an email wishing him a Happy Thanksgiving and telling him I felt responsible and hoped, if possible, to resurrect a friendship if possible.

I added that it may be too soon for him and left it at that.

The next day he sent me an invitation to an art showing he is hosting for a friend taking place next week. No personal message, just the invitation with no writing.

The initial meeting would be awkward for me: how would you handle. How would you act and what would you say?

Answer 1

Gay or straite, the points UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, so with that said. You tell him that he is a person who has became important to him, explain that, that makes it so that things with him or more intense then with other people, weather bs about art, or making love, whatever the case maybe, this guy has scar'd you. Which he himself most acknowledge. So comes the real dilemma, do you guys deny this fact, or do you accept it. And if you accept it, for what purpose. These are the things your after, you could go with a light, happy interaction, but trust you'll leave it feeling like you failed yourself and him. Friendships, relationships, heart-breck, and everything tied to our human relationships ARE F'IN INTENSE!!!! People don't fight wars so much for ideology as much as HOW that ideology influences this sector in our hearts. Play it real, play it honest, play it intense.

With that said, This worked for me

"I know in my life I well never have many oppuritunities to meet people that actually feel in someway that I'm important to their lives, and that I can honestly say are important to me. To disregard that is just a load of crap my heart can't tolerate. All I want from you is that friendship, that drive to understand you, and that drive to understand myself."

Worked on a female who use to be my friend, but I'm sort of an intense guy, so make sure to put your own style on it. The point is that your relationship didn't end because of abuse, neglect, or ignorance, it ended becasue life is hard, the struggle is tuff, and you guys didn't honestly believe you were their for each other. If you think you can fix that underlining error, go for it, if not, leave it be, this gets deeper, and deeper the longer you fight for it, but it well force you to grow....