Do relationships with guys who smoke weed ever work out??

Question

I guess I would classify him a pothead- he has been smoking for 6 years now every other day or so. Do relationships with people who have been smoking weed that much ever work out, why or why not in your personal opinion?

Even worse, he is a really wise guy.. he is definately not dumb. He knows his stuff. I dont know why he smokes that much.

Answer 1

No. They only care about one thing and it's not gonna be you.

Answer 2

I believe there is nothing wrong with smoking pot as long as it is treated as you would any drug (including alchohol). Personally I smoke pot regularly, but I am also able to balance the others things that are important in life. Currently, I'm finishing up my last year of college and already have a very well paying job lined up in June. I've had fairly long relationships in the past (2 years) and have never had problems because I smoke pot. I'm nearing 1 year with my current girlfriend as well. If him smoking is causing problems in the relationship (ex. he doesn't want to talk on the phone when he is high or you just don't want to date a pothead) then you should think twice. Otherwise, if he treats how you should be treated then give him the same chance you would any guy. I'm sure if he likes you enough he'd give up the habit, but think twice before you ask him to do so.

Answer 3

Well, it could be. A lot of people can smoke pot occasionally and not let it affect them, same as drinking. Maybe if someone is smokes once a month or bi monthly, it shows they can control their pot use. This will upset alot of potheads of course but if they're smoking every day then they seem to be too dependant of pot. Same as if someone drinks beer every day, some people can do it but for most people it means they have a drinking problem. As someone said pot makes you giddy, but that isnt always fun to be around. THe few heavy pot smokers I knew would just hang out on a couch and laugh at everything. Fun for them, less for the people who aren't high. And you can hang out without the pot. If you feel like going out or doing something and he just wants to hang out in the basement and toke then there will be friction. If he's happy not doing anything, he'll feel you're the problem if you're expecting something more. Again, I know this is going to upset pot heads but if he's smoking alot then he may mean he has a problem, so look at it as a symptom at least.

Answer 4

A healthy relationship requires a good handle on reality. Wherever illusions take the place of reality, relationships suffer and the delicate balance that is "a couple" begins to disintegrate. Drug abuse is an attempt to escape from what is felt to be an untenable reality. It is believed that the escape is the solution but this is part of the illusion. Any solution that is not based in reality is no real solution at all. When your loved one retreats into this drug induced illusion it becomes impossible for the couple to sustain itself in a healthy and life giving way. A link in the chain is sorely damaged. What is real can no longer be relied upon as common ground. Communication cannot make its way across the gulf between reality and the escape from that reality. The answer is "no" these type of relationships don't work. Help him get rid of this addiction, he will be thankful and the relationship will have a fair chance. Good luck.

Answer 5

Being stoned or drunk is only fun for the stoner or the alcoholic. You are telling us that he doesn't really know what is going on 6 out of 7 days. And even if he is not smoking the effects will last for a while. Do you want to put your heart in the hands of a person who shouldn't be driving a car.
No. If he loves you then he should put you first. Even before his next fix. You are better off finding someone who doesn't have to be doped up to be around you.

Answer 6

that natural to a guy to got smoke!!! but sometimes it not good!!!

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Answer 7

A little pot might seem harmless, but it really holds people back and stresses their relationships. Money is an issue with smokers for a couple of reasons. First, weed is expensive, even from a good source. People get screwed on drug deals all the time, and when someone takes your money and doesn't deliver, going to the police is not an option. Smokers often have a hard time getting well-paying jobs. If you have marijuana in your system, any job involving drug testing is ruled out. Depending on his education, he might be able to land an office job. But anything involving machinery, operation of motor vehicles, or other medium-liability task is out.

If you live with him, you'll have illegal substance all around you. The real danger is the possibility that you'll get into it too. I don't know how it happens, but almost all of my friends have caved to pot at some point, just from being around it all the time. I think you should spend a lot of time considering your options before you go too far with him.

Answer 8

It depends. If the girl is just like him and smokes every other day as well then it probably would.

If you have a brain and are against smoking it, then it would last a few months at the most. Unless your really willing to put up with him. But I mean come on, would you really want to date a guy that wastes half of his paycheck on drugs, and will probably die at a young age. You wont even be able to talk to him half of the time, he'll be so high,

Answer 9

No. I say ditch the guy, I knew potheads and all they do is bring you down (that's why I left them all behind and moved on). You deserve a clean guy that will do something for himself and support you. Get a guy who can think clearly without a plant affecting his mind. Don't even think about bargaining with him to get to stop, potheads are nothing but trouble. A guy that has hit or two like once or twice a year is ok. But potheads are a big no-no.

Answer 10

It's not all bad u no.

All this moral crap about drugs has really only been around for a couple of decades.

I know good and bad people who smoke weed but then I know good and bad people who don't. It's a habit like any other, don't let the legalty of it take centre stage. If hes over doing it then thats his problem, not the problem of weed itself. He could be over eating or something it would be the same problem.

Answer 11

Nope. Those people who smoke that crap are not happy with themselves and cannot be helped. I think that if your with a pothead you are one two not because you smoke it but because you're standards in a guy are NOT NOT NOT high! I'm sorry but no matter how you feel, like love, it won't work out and it's really sad your contemplating about him. Kick him to the curb, he's trash.Youre better than that!