I had a dream that I was trying to hook up a date for someone I used to know. She had a baby and nobody wanted to go out with her and be the father or another man's baby.
I rang the first guy, who happens to be famous. I dreamt I knew him. He said no thanks, bye.
Then I rang the second guy who was also famous and he said sure, why not.
Then my cell phone rang and it was him for me. Saying You want to go on date with me. I said sure.
He did not know I had a baby (apparently it was mine) and when he found out he felt betreayed and started crying and yelling my name.
I woke up then.
I have no kids in real life and am single.
2007-11-25 12:52:20 · 4 answers · asked by Janina 1 in Social Science ➔ Dream Interpretation
Is it possible you are afraid you may get pregnant to someone who will publicize it? You fear intimacy because you feel a partner may desert you if you get pregnant and no one else will want you then because you have another man's baby.
2007-11-25 13:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Traveler 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not unusual for women to think of their personal lives as a reflection of their biological selves. In other words, the 'baby' in your dream could very easily be the baggage (either from childhood or a previous relationship) that you are carrying around with you.
No one wanting to be the father suggests your fear that no one will want to take 'responsibility' for the you as you are now, and however damaged you feel. The calling up 'famous' men signals to me a deep insecurity that most people feel. In many ways, the more insecure we feel, the more emphasis we place upon our partner to 'compensate' for our shortcomings. People who cant act, but who love the movies, have dreams about famous actors and actresses, for instance.
The need to date, or be romanced, by someone beyond any realistic social expectation reinforces a strong insecurity. The fact that both 'famous' men turned you down was your mind's way of saying that although you think they are the answer, they really aren't.
The fact of the second one feeling betrayed and started crying says to me that the reaction (and thus the two dates) was really a mirror of your own. In dreams, we often create people who really portray different sides of ourselves. Seeing our high school teacher in our dream, for instance, suggests an issue that happened in high school within ourselves, and not necessarily with the teacher.
The two famous men symbolize unrealistic expectations, while at the same time, the second one symbolizes your hope/desire for someone who will take responsibility and 'accept' who you are and where you have been. The outburst at the end, therefore, suggests that as of right now, even if that person should show up, your feelings of insecurity and betrayal are undercutting your efforts for that to happen.
In addition, the fact that you are trying to set up a date for someone you used to know tells me that what you are looking for is someone willing to date, and take on the burdens of, that 'other' you that you have gone beyond. It's one thing for the Prince to love the girl when she is all decked out in a magickal gown and looks perfect, its quite another for him to love her when she's in her dowdy cleaning clothes. The same can be said of ourselves: the trick isn't to learn to love ourselves when we are at our best, but to do so when we are/were at our worst.
'Hidden babies' always come out in the end, no matter how much we may try to hide them. When you understand what the 'baby' is, then you can begin to understand how to be honest about it.
2007-11-25 21:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you have found someone that you may care about and your telling yourself your not good enough.
This could just be a waring letting you know that to always be true to yourself and others ..no matter what you do in life love yourself for who you are and never feel the need to lie to anyone about who you are or what you have.
If this person is truly genuine he will except you one and all.
2007-11-25 21:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Judy Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A baby could just be a symbol of baggage in general - maybe emotional baggage from past relationships? You're worried that guys won't like you because you've been hurt in the past, and they don't want someone they need to fix.
That's just my interpretation. Hope it fits at all :)
2007-11-25 21:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by HopelesslyConfused 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋