How can I stay without sex???
I went on a date with this guy on Friday night. Its was our second date!
I really like him... but I really didnt want to rush things between us...
I already did many mistakes in the past, and I want to get to know him first...
What should I do???
How can I keep this guy with me, and dont need to go to bed??
Thanks for your answers!!
Ps.: I'm 25 and he is 29 years old.
2007-11-25 12:51:10 · 36 answers · asked by Ranah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, if the topic comes up, be frank and tell him that youve made mistakes in the past and you value your relationship and dont want to risk ruining things. if he doesnt understand that, he's not really the one for you.
2007-11-25 12:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard. What happened to dating? It seems you have not done this in a long time, since high school. Tell him you want to date and not just jump in the sack. If he is a good man he should already be willing to do this. It will make the relationship fun and exciting not sexual, which is what you are looking for anyway. You will need a lot of practise from now on. Most men are not understanding of a good girl and want a naughty girl, as most women want the bad tough guy. You may need to rethink who you chose to go out with and flirt with.
2007-11-25 13:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by jalwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit wearing your feelings on your sleave.
If you are being pressured to have sex, dump him like a hot rock. If the guy is willing to communicate and talk tell him your feelings and explain to him how you feel. NO GAMES. If you have had sex before and this guy knows it then he is going to keep the heat on till he scores.
So It's up to you if you are not compfortable then DON"T.
It's your body so you control the situation.
I can tell you are an emotional creature, don't fall head over heels without a little time.
Don
2007-11-25 12:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Don M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he really cares for you & wants to have a relationship with you then not to rush you. You should'nt have to 'put out' when you're not ready. It's your body & only YOU know when it's time. Don't go making the same mistakes over & over again. If this guys right for you then he will understand.
2007-11-25 12:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for you, you need to get yourself a vibrator or a dildo but eventually, he's going to be like what's up? Look you like sex nothing wrong with that. I understand taking it a bit slow but sooner or later you're going to have to make the decison to put out or to risk losing him. If losing him is OK with you then really that's all that matters.
When it comes to sex, do what you want to do without pressure.
2007-11-25 12:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberryjoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to take it slow. If he wants to rush things and get in bed, don't give in. That's a red flag that he probably just wants to get some and doesn't want to know what you're all about.
2007-11-25 12:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your dating the guy' just be honest and tell him; you want to get to know him better ' and if sex comes up' just say no this is not the right time or ' let's not rush in to it..If he cares for you' he;ll understand...Lots of luck with you and yours..
2007-11-25 12:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex won't make a guy stay with you
i spent 8 months with my ex without sex
YES 8 months... no i'm not in high school
no... neither one of us was a virgin, i've had experiences, he's had experiences
i thought that holding sex for THIS long will not only have him respect me but i'll see that he was into a lasting relationship
2 months after we've had sex he broke it off with me...
he said we were just not compatible...oh well... maybe he was right
with my now boyfriend of 2 years
i had sex with him on our first date
and we have sex everyweek :)
but i would advise you to wait a while
i'd give it a month before we have sex
2007-11-25 12:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by jennythepig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u go somewhere where ur alone and he trys to make a move tell him that u really like but u dont want things to be rushed
2007-11-25 12:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you don't want to have sex. Tell him you wanna take it slow. But only say something if he is trying to make the moves.
You don't want him to think that you think something wrong might happen w/ the relationship.
2007-11-25 12:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Late Night Talk Shows♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋