I just got off the phone with my dad after not talking to him for 4 months, and now I feel depressed. I have always try to form a bond with my dad and I always felt rejected by him. I finally gave up about 4 years ago. I never really call him if we talk its because he called me. Well every time he calls I always end up feeling stupid and down because of things he says. I know I need to stop the relationship for my emotional health. I just now how to do it. Has anyone else gone through this type of thing? Does anyone have any advice? Part of me just wants to cuss him and his wife out and tell the I want nothing to do with them. But I don't know if I would ever have the guts to do it.
2007-11-25 12:45:32 · 3 answers · asked by me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to grow up and face him. Tell him the next time it happens, exactly how it makes you feel, and then, that you won't talk to him anymore and just resent him if it keeps up. He'll either be adult about it and change, or will be hurt and not call - either way, you'll be better off.
2007-11-25 12:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing with my mom. then she wonders y i don't have a good relationship with her. and with my new baby coming she wants to be in her life. But my gut is telling me no. Because she likes to throw my wrong doing in my face all the time. Because my kids have two different fathers. So she throws it in my face and she cherishes my sister more than me. So i wrote her a email telling her that i want her to believe that i never existed. Because we don't get along and it has been this way a long time. So i rather give up and enjoy my life then go through and deal with the emotional bagage that comes from her. I would say just leave them alone. My shrink says that two unhealthy people is not a good combo.
2007-11-25 12:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like my advise that you should not sever your connections with your Dad permanently. You are not calling him since last 4 years. It is he who calls but the talks leave you saddened.. Next time he rings you, try to be non-committal and evasive and superficially agreeing to what he says.. This will confuse him to some extent and he may avoid blaming you or saddening you in any way.Every one's future is uncertain.In future , you might need him or he might need you.I sincerely feel ,relations so close should never be terminated
2007-11-26 02:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋