I am 13 years old and am starting to think about being sexually active, is that wrong ?

Question

My boyfriend has asked me if i would be sexually active with him, i know i love him with all my heart, but i still get the feeling we are to young, i am very confused and would really appreciate some advise,

Answer 1

nah what could be wrong with having a baby at 15 or getting a disease that could kill you or all your friends calling you a ho. Go for it.

Answer 2

You have a very long life ahead of you. You will have many, many years to have sex. But for now, there are some important tasks that you need to finish up.
Right now, you live with your parents, and surely you don't want to live with them forever! Someday you will want your own house or apartment, and you will need lots of money to afford that. You'll also want a good job so you won't be miserable every day going to work like I am right now!
How will you get that great job? By going to college, entering the military, or getting some kind of post-secondary training to train you for the job of your dreams!
Wait. Before you can do that you have to finish high school, and you're not there yet.
Some people will say no problem, you can go on the pill or use a condom, but that doesn't always work. My aunt was MARRIED, and she was on the pill, and I think she forgot to take it or something, because somehow, she got pregnant. She was married, so her and my uncle were able to provide for the new baby, which they love, but if my aunt would have been a high school student, single, and alone? No way could she have dealt with that stress-free.
I also went to school with a girl, and she had sex while we were in high school. She really liked the guy, but she had the baby, they broke up, and she is still struggling. She wants to finish college, but hasn't got to yet because she is still struggling just to make ends meet. She got pregnant a second time. She's 25, still living with her parents. Her babies have two different daddies.
Time will fly, and before you know it, your high school days will be done. You'll look back on all the time that has past, and you will wonder where it has gone. No doubt your future will hold some great things, but if you have sex now, it will ruin things. Save yourself for your future husband so there will be no worries. You can be a virgin on your wedding night and give your husband something special. Waiting is worth it!

Answer 3

In my opinion, at 13, you are way to young to even consider having sex. While you may know how to prevent pregnancy and not get an STD, there are still so many emotions that go with having sex that you are just not mature enough to understand and deal with.
I know you say you love him with all your heart and I'm not doubting that at all, but love at 13 is completely different than love at 23 or 43 or even 63 for that matter!
Besides, if you feel that you are too young, then that is your answer. You are too young. If your boyfriend cannot understand that, then you should get a new boyfriend!

Answer 4

A lot of guys will act nicer than they really are because they want you to have sex with them and they want to brag about to other guys. This is a good test to see how much your boyfriend truly cares for you. Tell him you are not ready to have sex. Don't let him pressure you into it. You don't owe him any. If he harasses you about it or dumps you then he is an asshole and is trying to use you for sex. If he stays then then you are more likely to be dating a good person.

13 is very young to have sex. Actually, you could say it is earlier then very young to have sex. It's also not normal to do it at that age. Some guys that age might say they have but they are probably lying. People who do it that young tend to regret it.

It is normal to think or fantasize about sex at your age. Actually doing it is another thing. If you do want a sexual experience now try masturbation, which almost every guy does and the majority of girls do and is completely healthy and free of the consequences of sex.

Answer 5

Yes baby its wrong, Your way to young. I know you've heard it a thousand times but its true enjoy being a child it ends way to quickly. What ever relationship your in probably won't make it past junior high. what are you 8th grade my son is in 8th grade And I got pregnant at 13 and had him at 14 years old. I love him with all my heart but If I had waited I could have been such a better parent to him. I mean i did okay but I could have done so much better for him. from self experience I can almost guarantee you will not be with him long enough to give him something so special. something you will never have again. Your virginity. Save it. Your worth it.

Answer 6

I'd wait.

Reality is that chances are you will not be with him after you all leave for college. Things will change and you and him will both meet young, new people at the peak of physical shape and beauty.

So unless you plan to go into the same field, same college, same work, etc... and even with all that there is still a big possibility that you won't make it all the way.

That being the case, if your not ready, and you think it's too early, it probably is. If he can't accept that, then he's not a good guy anyways. He should respect your wishes and your viginity... after all, it's YOURS to give.

Answer 7

You are still young. Im not trying to be a parent or anything but you shouldnt be worrying about whether or not you should be having sex. If youre worrying about sex ....all that means is youre not ready. Sex isnt all it cracked up to be. Making love is a whole different wonderful experience and a very special connection in a relationship. You know make it as special as you can and definately wait till its right. If you look at it this way ... say your favorite singer makes the best music youve ever heard and you listin to him all the time...they play his song on the radio and you listin to the radio just so you dont ever miss the song....well hes coming out with a new album in 2 months and it has that song on it and you just cant wait till you get it so you can listin to that song over and over again without waiting all day just to hear it on the radio... with each day that passes by the anticipation just gets better and better and you dream the day you get will be the best day ever untill finally that day come you finally get his album... youre soooo happy and you listin to his song day after day after day .... but at some time youre going to bet bored of it youll always love the song but youll get bored of it and then its not going to be as good as it used to but if you didnt have to wait for it and dream about it and get all siked up for it well it wouldnt have been as good as it was....well sex is the same way if you dont dream and romance about it making it truely something special and you just give it up well it will never be as good as you thought it would be ... sorry that was a little long ... and if youre boyfriend doesnt understand well then hes not the one for you ... yah know?

Answer 8

You say your sexually active: Didnt say male or female: 1. If Male--assume it is with someone your own age: If so you could face sexual charges and spend a long time in jail. 2. If Female---Someone you care about, if your fooling around with that person, and if determined by police either inadvertently or turned in, your perhaps favorite person could be spending a long time in jail for contributing to deliquency of minor , rape, or other serious charges. I guess you want that??--What are you thinking? Is it wrong in todays world you ask? What kind of a question isthat, dont you know it is against the law-----No such thing as consensual sex under age.---Certainly it is wrong----And you know it.

Answer 9

Honey, you really, honestly, are too young... Your own intuition is telling you that, and you are right; trust your gut (always!). There is plenty of time for sex when you are a little older (a few years!). There is no need to rush it. No 13 year-old is ready for sexual involvement; A LOT of disastrous things can happen physically and emotionally; you are too young. You have to be mature and responsible to have sex successfully, without repercussions. Just hold off; enjoy being 13!

Answer 10

There is a lot of responsibility that comes with being sexually active, including being prepared for the possibility of having a baby and being a mother by 14. And the responsibility for the stress it can add to a relationship (the stress you're feeling with the pressure now is nothing compared to what comes later). If you think you're responsible enough for sex, ask yourself if you're responsible enough to initiate a conversation with your parents about it first. If you're not responsible enough to talk about sex with your folks, then it's a sure sign you're not ready yet. In the end, remember... you will have to live with your decisions... so make sure you're ready for what comes with sex, including babies.

Answer 11

ok no for 1 ur 13 u dont need a bf its fine if u do but u really shouldnt be sexually active at that young of age he will just want sex and if u dont give it to him he will be done with u i dont think a guy should be presuring u to have sex at that young of age wait at least till ur 18 u dont want to get pregnet ppl are having sex younger and younge r u dont want to be one of those ppl i mean when ever u have a baby hopfully that wont be at 14 but when u do u want ur kid not to have sex that young so i would advise u not to do it but it is really not up to me but i do hope u make a good choice weither that may be to have sex or not