Will he cry...? (Serious answers only please)?

Question

I've been friends with benifits with this guy for about two years now...but we have feelings for one another...and blah, blah, blah. We've been there for eachother and put eachother through a lot but, still always make up.

Anyways, I'm moving to Chicago next year from Ohio and he's still going to be living in Ohio. It's going to be really hard for me to leave him behind..and I know I'm going to cry when we say our good-byes. I'll still come back to visit with family on the holiday's and such.

He's not a very sensitive guy..But, what I want to know is do you think he will also cry when we say good-bye? Or maybe just shed a tear or two?

Thanks so much.

Answer 1

I am sure that he will be hurting inside, but may put on a strong face for you (actually for his pride or maybe so you won't get all teary eyed and blubbery .)
Sounds to me like you two have a vivid history with the ups and downs of a real relationship. But, from my perspective, FWB is more than just friendship no matter who wants to keep it 'real'. Sticking together is a cheap way of saying we are loyal to each other, but...
It sounds to me like you have your feelings for him as well.
Are you wanting validation for wanting to continue the relationship or is it that splitting it up gives you guilt.
I would say that he will do either, the strong but disappointed act, or he will not want you to go and be mad and hurtful, or maybe just be cold and distant.
If he is mad and hurtful, it is because he really wanted to have more of a relationship with you than he realized or he just doesn't want to stop getting his 'benefits'.
I don't know if you have told him about the move or if it just is being side issued or ignored.
If he acts too casual and cool, it truly was just for the benefits and you should get away from him because he is a user.
If you want him to cry, that is just kinda sicko, like desperate to prove that you meant something to him for real.
If you just want him to show he loves you, you should walk away like he should be falling down trying to get you to stay.
It is easy to be strong if he knows that you will be back in a couple of weeks.
It may sink in more after you are gone and he can't just make a booty call.
I feel in my truth meter that you should focus on your new life in Chicago and leave the past where it will fall. He hasn't committed to you thus far, chances are he's playing the field more than you.
But I hate to color the guy a loser when he may show up and tell you he's ready to make it more.
I would still suggest you make your career move the primary interest for the next couple of years and see him on occassion when back in Oh10. You will probably find a new person inside yourself after he isn't so available to distract you from moving on with your life.
Not to discount your past together, but has it been more trouble than joy? More making accommodations and compromises of your wants and values to satisfy his 'needs?'
Has he asked you to be a friend or a "benefit" more often?
The way he feels really should not be an issue when you are ready to make your life and career and seek out more than just FWB.
1. He cries...is it a good thing? What would that mean, more sticking together, more putting each other through a lot?
2. He doesn't cry...is that bad? Is he being strong for you, for himself or just doesn't feel enough to know to cry?
3. Maybe he doesn't cry when you say good bye, but I bet he does when he is alone and doesn't have his snuggle buddy to keep him warm. When he realizes how he has used your body for his needs and denied you dignity and true love.
I think if he really cares for you he will cry, but will it be too late is the question.

Answer 2

Does it matter to you that he "cries" in order to show that he cares about you???? You might be disappointed. People have many different kinds of relationships. You sound as if you are mature and ready to move on. The benefits will be null and void. If you had a real friendship then you can continue to communicate (technology is a trip these days!) But don't worry about who is going to shed tears. Just because someone does 'not' cry does not mean they don't care and won't miss you. The tears should be the least of your concerns.

Answer 3

He might not cry in front of you, but he'll definetly be hurting on the inside if you two have such strong feelings for one another. Sometimes its hard for guys to express their feelings.

Answer 4

if he really does have feelings for you then of course he will cry sensitive or not. it's hard to let go of someone you really care about even though they're just moving. it won't be the same. like he might try and hold it back in front of you but once he gets home, he might be ballin` his eyes out.

Answer 5

I think you need to get on with your life and find someone that you truly get along with. People who like each other don't put one another through a lot.
You both need to set your priorities and treat others as you want to be treated.
The best thing you can do is move and forget him.

Answer 6

there is largely 2 techniques you are able to to get me to cry and that i'm ineffective intense too. somebody passing away, i would be in tears. thinking or working into shallow women human beings who do not elect to be a factor of your existence. only like the girls that do unlike, like or maybe admire me. form of like rejection besides.

Answer 7

if hes not emotional or a so called tough guy he wont shed a tear with u around. if hes upset he wont let anyone know...so it will be a mystery. But if hes good at sharing his feelings ho might shed a few tears.

Answer 8

I don't know, you'll see. I'm pretty sure he'll try not to because he's a guy and guys don't like to cry in public but there's no way of knowing.

Answer 9

I'm sure he will, if not in front of you he will when you actually leave. Some guys don't like for girls to see them show emotion, but they all have emotions weather it shows on the outside it is tearing them up inside.
Good Luck in the future!

Answer 10

If he knows you that well, he'll know that you expect him to cry. It's what you want to see, so he'll probably work up a few tears for your benefit. Don't think of it as fake. Think of it this way. He cares enough to give you what you want to see.