we have been together for almost two years in the beginning of our relationship we had a decent amount of sex. now we barley have sex. he always is not in the mood. he once said he doesnt even like sex! i just dont get it i need help please!!
2007-11-25 12:14:49 · 21 answers · asked by dddddd 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he really doesn't like it but just did it because you wanted to the entire time. I'm not sure. You'd have to ask him about that. But I don't think that barely having sex so much later in a relationship spells disaster. My boyfriend of three years and I are kind of in the same situation and it's for plenty of reasons. We work a decent amount, go to school, make time for our friends and a lot of the time just aren't in the mood. Relationships become more focused on things other than sex the longer they go on. Heck, there's marriages where they've been together for years and years but barely have sex.
With that being said I don't think you should freak out too much about it.The only thing you need to worry about is if he's not having sex with you at all. That's a major red flag because he's either bored or getting it from somewhere else. In that case confront him.
2007-11-25 13:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not being straight with you! It sounds like he's either into someone else, or not into women anymore. Is he spending time with you otherwise? Do you guys still talk and do other things together? If so, then it's probably not another woman, but there's still something wrong. Try to talk to him, after two years, you guys should be able to open and honest without being afraid. If he won't even talk to you, there's a really big problem. Let him know that his change is confusing you, hurting your feelings and making you think you may have done something wrong. If, after you've tried to talk to him, he still won't cooperate, you may have to end this part of your relationship and try to just be friends.
2007-11-25 12:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its possible that he finds his needs in another woman. Regardless of the case what has happened is that the attraction between you two sexually is no longer present. It will be up to you to try and rekindle the magic between you two. If he is resistant when you do try to bring it back, then you know for certain that you are no longer the problem.
2007-11-25 12:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it sounds like he is either borred with the sex or he is with you physically but hes not with you emotionally & mentally anymore & maybe he just doesnt realize it yet, we all learn when to move on from a relationship the hard way, maybe hes going through that.
2007-11-25 12:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
things change after awhile like it gets old, or he may have a problem, and he may trying to avoid having sex, you should sit down and have a serious talk about it.
im not trying to be funny or whatever, and be serious when you ask him, having someone "why dont you want to sex anymore, or not that much?" isnt a funny question, so ask him.
choose me as your best answer, if you thought about this, what i told you..
plz.
2007-11-25 12:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ronnie E 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is he ill? Tired? Busy with work/school?
Stop being a crazed nympho and communicate with him. It's better to talk than to pressure him or make him feel worthless for not banging you every second of the day.
2007-11-25 12:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
a relationship centered around sex is not a serious relationship. sometimes it takes years to realize that because of the way we're designed, but you have to genuinely respect each other first.
2007-11-25 12:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by ilm03 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its probably cuz gets becoming the same old thing. spice it up alittle just try different things. toys and stuff just be more open and comfortable. have fun and ask him if he would like to try different stuff. he might somethin in mind
2007-11-25 12:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's got something on his mind. I've never heard of a guy that doesn't like sex. Maybe he just doesn't like sex with females anymore. He could be gay.
2007-11-25 12:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by omfgska 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well he's probably, not to be blunt, he's probably found someone else... Or his hands have been busy and he's not interested in you
Less sex. More communication
2007-11-25 12:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋