I have been dating a 28 year old girl off and on for about a year. It has been difficult as she has some issues with depression, alcohol, etc. She has been hospitalized on a very short term on two separate occassions over this past year. It seemed like things were starting to get better, and then one day i got a voicemail from her saying something like "I have had a rough couple of days. I love you very much and appreciate all the support you have given me. I am checking into the hospital and will have phone numbers with me when i get in. I will call u soon". That was over a week ago, and i found out from her sister that she is now in a 28 day rehab facility. I am upset because she has not called and i am worried about her. I am wondering why she would not contact me...it hurts. We have always been there for one another even when our relationship was going through ups and downs. I called the facility she is at but they will only take messages and relay them to patients.
2007-11-25 11:57:19 · 5 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. She has two children who have been living with their father, and the day she went in was her sons birthday. She was upset that she couldnt see him, and she may have drank her sorrows away, i am not sure. i dont know how to handle this. i want to talk to her so bad, and i dont know why she is keeping me out of what is going on. im just very worried about her, and even though she knows this she does not return my call. maybe our relationship is part of the problem...i dont know. anyway, just looking for some insight. i think my biggest concern, other than her safey and well being, is that i wont get to talk to her again. That she may be using this as an opportunity to remove me from her life. As i said before, our relationship has never been easy, and i know that these facilities try to do everything to remove stress, and she may feel i bring stress to the situation.
2007-11-25 11:58:26 · update #1
i guess all i can do is except it and move on while hoping to hear from her. any thoughts are welcomed. her sister tells me that since she checked herself in she can make calls out between nine and eleven at night.
2007-11-25 11:58:57 · update #2
That sux! I guess we live and learn though. At the same time u are finding out your own strenghts. Good luck!
2007-11-25 12:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Daydreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a very caring person, but I think you need to let this girl go. She has a lot of issues that will take her years to work through, and the responsibility of maintaining a romantic relationship would be hard for anyone in her situation to handle. She's not ready for you, which means she's the wrong girl for you. It's time to move on.
2007-11-25 12:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally people in rehab cannot make phone calls out. However, they can usually write letters. See if you can call the office of the center where she is and write to her.
2007-11-25 12:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can't make any calls if in rehab, at least not for a certain time period. Helps to focus on the therapy, etc.
Pray for her and be there for her when she gets out. This is not about you, she needs help. she needs to get sober.
2007-11-25 12:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by ohio gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've had the same type thing happen with a good friend.....they did rehab multiple times.....I don't know what to say........Just bear with them and try to make them change.
2007-11-25 12:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋