I am18 and some of my friends make fun of me for being a virgin is it wrong to be a virgin
2007-11-25 11:42:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I didn't realize girls make fun of eachother for that. Wait until you're married - it's better that way, guaranteed. When a guy hears that a girl is a virgin, that's really attractive. That's pretty disrespectful of your friends- they're probably just jealous. Either they're implying that you have old-fashioned values (which is bullshit), or they're implying you're not desireable enough to have a partner (if that's partially true, then it wouldn't be bad to work on your physique, grooming, style, etc.). I'm a 22-year old virgin guy (by choice), and the stereotype with that is you're not man enough, etc. There used to be some truth to that (my dad left when I was real young, so it wasn't until more recently that I've been learning how to be more of a man). So I suppose for guys, it one thing to be a stud and choose to wait, and another to be a geek with no real opportunity. And for girls, it's one thing to be a babe and choose to wait (guys are extremely attracted to virgins. if you're a virgin they're more likely to think of you as marriage material), and it's a different thing if you're "not so easy on the eyes". Either way, be the best woman you can be, stay pure and find a guy who's worth your being with.. forever.
2007-11-25 11:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by angelos447 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of question is this! No it's not wrong. It's personal preferences! If you're not a virgin, that's your choice. Some people feel pushed into having sex because of how others act about sex. It's not wrong, its your choice.
2016-05-25 22:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 19 year old guy and good looking and I'm a virgin. Now there are all these's people that are telling you that is the right thing to do and all this stuff. But they have no idea how much pain it is to not have sex, I mean that in a mental way, I'm at the point now where I just want to get it over with so I won't get hurt so much when dating some one who isn't a virgin. So yes its right and good any all that, but it hurts like hell and for me it just isn't worth it any more. Also people don't want to date me because they don't want to dirty me up or something, it just sucks.
2007-11-25 11:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your friends making fun of you for something doesn't make it a case of right or wrong. You have to look beyond WHAT people say and try to figure out (the often unstated) WHY behind their words. Otherwise you are at risk of being manipulated in this case by peer pressure. Would it be wrong to not want to eat maggots if your friends all like to eat maggots and make fun of you because you think that is gross?
Perhaps your non-virgin friends want you to be like them? Or maybe one or more of them want to sleep with you and figure that pressuring you to fit in will bring this about?
As to what truly makes something right or wrong - that is a highly personal question that is hard to answer here in this small space. I would in a nutshell say that for something to be truly right or wrong, it should come from your religious, philosophical, and/or personal beliefs tempered by good advice from people who actually love you and aren't trying to manipulate you. Good luck to you and whatever you decide to do, don't let someone pressure you into a decision you might regret later on so far as your virginity or anything else goes.
2007-11-25 11:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? Definitely not. Honestly, it can make you feel a little like a freak among your peers, but waiting has some advantages. Along the way you became emotionally much more experienced with women and this made it easier to finally take the plunge, so to speak. you have enough life experience and understand women much better than you do when younger. That makes first time sex a lot more comfortable and problem free. if it happens when you're young, say 18, you're much less confident- a veritable neurotic mess, in fact.
2007-11-25 11:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by MNM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
noo u r doing the right thing. keep u the good work until u find the perfect match and get married. It is just a peer preasure just remember to be above the influence. You know being a virgin is nothing to lose. But if u do have sex can u imagine the consequences? pregnancy, abortion, relationship with ur partner, family, his family, ur school will be neglect, u might get sexual transmitted disease, etc. So i am proud of u for having ur own belief and principle and be true to ur self
2007-11-25 11:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by itsme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, never be pressured into not staying a virgin. You are in charge of your body and you can be proud of the choice you have made. You'll know when the time is right and until then...your friends should butt out....real friends support each other.
2007-11-25 11:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by missourim43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong at all. Some are still a virgin at their 20s-30s, or going too far, 40s.
2007-11-25 11:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin and there is nothing wrong not being a virgin. It is personal choice but do not base it on any religious notion.
2007-11-25 11:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it's not wrong to be a virgin. Don't worry about what your friends think, they are just jealous because they can't be as good person as you are.
2007-11-25 11:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by PANGTA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋