my friends hate my friend jenn but she needs a place to stay. her mom just kicked her out and she says she has a week to get out of the house. shes only 15! and she has no were to go because her dad just moved out of state. everything would work out perfectly if she stayed with me she would have a ride to school, i have a extra bed. but were a little behind money so i think they will say no. but she would only stay 2 weeks. but my mom let my brothers friend paul stay for two weeks and his other friend stay for a month, so why cant i let her stay for two weeks. but im asking how do i convince them to let her stay? also they hate her because we were stupid a year ago and took these pills and we o.d. also she had alot of problems at home so my parents thought she was mentally unstable but she got counciling so shes better its just her and her mom got in a fight so she cant deal with her anymore and shes makign her leave so how can i convince my parents to let her stay?!?!?!
2007-11-25 11:33:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
legally her friends mom cant just through her out like that. she has an obligation as a mom to take care of her. talk to ur parents and tell them the truth of her situation.
2007-11-25 11:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her parents can't just kick her out at 15, they are responsible for her, so your family could find a lot of trouble letting her stay there. Don't push this one at all, your parents would be more than right to say no. This problem has to be solved some other way, and it will probably have to involve the authorities. She really needs to call the authorities and tell them what is going on, because a 15 year old on the streets is 1. illegal on the part of her parents, to allow 2. An absolute disaster for her.
2007-11-25 19:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they hate your friend, but they are worried about all the drama in her life, and they want some separation between you and that drama. Whatever you do, don't talk to your parents about your brother's friends staying - that will not convince them, trust me. They will see it as immature if you argue with them about it.
Consider it this way - I don't know that Jenn's mom really can just kick her out. If they had a fight, people say things that they don't mean. Jenn needs to make peace with her mom, to participate in creating a solution with her mom, and if you insert yourself in that process by providing a place to stay, it will never happen. You are a good friend to care, but you need to step back a bit. If you ask, and they say no, then accept it. Jenn's mom has a responsibility to her - but I am sensing that Jenn is probably a big part of the problem, and you are stuck in the middle. Maybe you could ask Jenn what she could do to calm things down with her mom, instead of just listening to her stress about getting kicked out. I mean, think about it from your parent's point of view - someone whose mom is kicking them out is not really someone they would be anxious to host as a live-in houseguest, right?
2007-11-25 19:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great friend if you are trying to let her stay. If we knew why she was kicked out, then it would be easier to answer. If you are really desperate, than you could sneak her in, although that would be tough. Be sure that your parents know she will be under there watch at all times. Remind them of your brothers friends. Good luck!
2007-11-25 20:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, she does need help. I am surprised that her own mother just abandoned her to the streets, as you tell it. But, your parents are doing the responsible thing by keeping her away from you...she is a bad influence. Maybe you could propose a compromise: let her stay the night tonight at your house, and tomorrow, she goes to school and talks to the school counselors and they help her establish a place to stay from the next night forward.
EDIT:
So...what's the update to this story?
2007-11-25 19:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Esther D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first just ask them then bring up that your brother had to friends stay and that she got help and you havent dont it since. If that doesnt work go with the pitty route say she has no where to go and it wouldnt be long stuff like that. Dont this for her, talk to your parents or she will suffer. Good luck email me if you need more advice.
2007-11-25 19:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off dont try and guilt trip them or make them think that because they did it for your brothers that they have to do it for you. next i think you should start out by saying exactly what you typed... mom, dad, my friend jenn needs a place to stay.... ect.
2007-11-25 19:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kaitlin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is a bad influence on you. That is why your parents don't want her around. Have your told your parents about her situation? Someone needs to call Child Protective Services. It is illegal for her mother to throw her out.
2007-11-25 19:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont convinve your mom, if the girls mom kicked her out then she is trouble, your mom does not want you to be influenced or trouble (she could get in lots of legal trouble if her mom isnt ok with it) Your mom shouldnt have to fork out money if she is struggling as it is. she obviously has GOOD reasons not to allow her in her house.
2007-11-25 19:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by Rina 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not your problem to solve-she and her mother need to work this out. Her mother can go to jail for kicking her out at 15-
2007-11-25 19:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋