i am 25 years old. i have never had a relationship. no woman looks at me or give me time a day. i hate my self because of this. no woman desires me whatsoever. i am depressed and angry because of this. It is becoming harder to cope with this. i know this is because I am too fat, have a big fat head, and dark skinned. i hate myself. i do not know what to do.
2007-11-25 11:03:31 · 8 answers · asked by wayne b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe they think ur gay...
2007-11-25 11:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow. As I read you posting I thought that the answer was so obvious to me and probally everybody BUT you so here it is... You have go to change your attitude about yourself! If you think all those horrible "reasons" are why you haven't been intimate with a female, your dead wrong. Nobody wants to be around someone who carries so much negative energy inside of them, and no girl on this earth finds an insecure man attractive. As far a physical appearances are concerned, you should only change if you are unhappy or unhealthy. And some things such as your head that cannot be changed you must learn to embrace as well, nobody is perfect and the only thing less attractive than a man with no confidence is a perfectionist- really no woman wants to be with a man who is more "perfect" than she- that's unless they are your gay best friend-lol. Anyway, do this and everything else from on now for yourself and then everything will fall into place. And another thing you may want to do is LOOK arouns you. WHat females are in your life? Are they friends? The best girls always wait for the gentelman to make the first move, ALWAYS make a MOVE even if you get shot down. Do you realize that women out number men on the planet insanely? Don't be absorbed in appearances, the most beautiful woman is one that is truely good on the inside. Good luck, I hope this helps.
2007-11-25 11:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your problems. I'll tell you a secret, though. Your depression is the CAUSE of your relationship problems, not the symptom. This is very common. You are unhappy with yourself and depressed, and this causes you to fail in relationships and in attracting people. Depression, self-loathing, and negativity are not attractive. They turn people off. Your lack of confidence also probably prevents you from making your feelings known, approaching women, and talking to them. Women do not randomly fall in love with men. You have to make a proactive attempt to gain their affections. I'll tell you something else: there are a lot of overweight, dark-skinned guys out there with big heads that are happily married to wonderful, loving women. So that is not your problem.
What to do? I seriously recommend that you see your doctor about this. Your doctor can help you in two ways. First, he can help you establish a more healthy lifestyle that will help you lose some weight and build your confidence. Second, he can refer you to an expert that can help you overcome your depression. Depression is often biological and there are medical and therapeutic remedies for eliminating it and getting back control of your self-ego. This is a common problem. It happens to millions of people just like you. The ones that get up, see their doctor, and do something about it are the ones that succeed in overcoming their problems and finding a relationship. You are not alone and there are people who can help you. I strongly urge you to give it a try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You CAN do it!!
Good luck!
2007-11-25 11:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what to do.
First you have to change your attitude of life. Trust me, if you go into doing anything with spite, or bitterness, you'll never get what you want. From here on out you have to be positive, and just greatful to be alive.
Next, you have to change the way YOU think about yourself. If your saying your too fat, and have a fat haead, and your dark skin is preventing you from getting girls, then whats the rest of the world going to think?
Just email me, I can tell you exactly what you need to do.
2007-11-25 11:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Riches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must only be interested in superficial women. Work on your disposition and stop being so angry.... you will meet someone who cares about a lot more than looks.
2007-11-25 11:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel bro i can't get a gf either
2007-11-25 11:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ulsterlad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose weight, go to the gym (there are girls there too), be friendly, smile!
2007-11-25 11:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by twirlingbunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
change.
2007-11-25 11:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋