Who drives? 10 points to best answer...?

Question

i'm 18, and I don't have a car(yes i'm a loser-i take the bus). and i was wondering, does it matter who drives on a (first) date with a girl? if I ask her out, would it be kind of odd for her to drive me-or us-whereever?

and as far as any relationship goes, i am severely limited in schedule. i'm only available from 9-4pm-not on weekends and the time is subject to change every few months-and i have no idea of her schedule? could it work out?

Answer 1

well to be honest i don't think it should matter who drives the car if she really likes you. i mean if she understands your situation then it shouldn't matter. theres always that stupid shallow macho stuff about the guy picking up the girl but it doesn't really matter in the end if the whole point is just to be together. i don't think it matters who drives. as for the schedule, i think she will appreciate that even with your tight schedule that you try so hard to be with her. don't worry about it.

Answer 2

If she is OK with who you are and not what you have then why should it be odd? I get that as a man you feel like you should have more and be more successful in your life than she is. Do take heart though. You are only 18 and just getting started in life. You are trying to establish yourself in this world.

Nobody isn't expecting you to be rolling in a Lexus, live in a nice house and making $60,000+/year. Unless of course you were fortunate enough to be born of wealthy parents. Hopefully girls your age will get this and not hold it against you. At least you are working and not sitting at home with your parents getting stoned and playing the PlayStation. If you ask a woman and she turns you down, then you didn't lose anything but someone shallow.

.....of course if you are over the age of 30 and still not riding around in your own wheels, then you would be a loser (assuming you live in the US or western nation).

Answer 3

LOL I don't have to have the points. Relationships that work will work out. By that I mean that regardless of the conflicting schedules, if you two are really into one another, you will make the time. I'm a female and if I had to drive my date around it wouldn't matter to me. As long as one of us has a car, I would not complain because somehow we'll get to see each other. Even though your schedule is subject to change, find out her current schedule before assuming it couldn't work out.

Answer 4

Well it's kind of informal to ask someone on a date and make them drive. Just ask her to see if she minds. I don't think she'll be too impressed, but I doubt she'll hate it. Just see how it goes, if you like her and she likes you, i'm sure you'll make time for each other no matter what the schedule.

Answer 5

nothing wrong with that!!! your saving money!!! i drove on my first date. not for the fact that he didnt have a car. he army, so i had to pick him up. he couldnt have a car yet while he was still in basic training. he has his own car now. she he drives 90% of the time.

just tell her your work schedule and make a way to find ways around it in-order to work out. just plan a few wks a head...a lot of people do it. it worked for me. like i said, my boyfriend is in the army.

Answer 6

as for the bus issue. Maybe you could plan a romantic sort of thing ON the bus, make it sound so amazing that you take the bus everyday.

Its healthier for the environment anyways.

Answer 7

If a guy asked me out and expected me to drive, I wouldnt even bother going out with him. i know that sounds shallow, but I just wouldnt

Answer 8

well, that would be awkward.
do activities that require walking or riding the bus. and occasionally get her to drive.