Spouse / child abandoned by Military man. Should he be held Responsible / Misconduct by Soldier?

Question

My ex-son-in-law, had enlisted in the Army. My daughter was already
pregnant, by someone else. He allowed the baby to have / carry
his last name.
The family (soldier) got recorded, as Being Indebted to the Army,
and he was ''forced to be discharged"...(all particulars unknown to
me right now)..but he Abandoned the wife...to my house (with the
baby less than 20 months old), and he ''got a younger girl (over
age 18 / or about that age), and got her pregnant, within 8 weeks,
of abandoned his family...Before any Divorce, Before Discharge
from the Military Service...
Could this Be Considered Misconduct by a Military Enlisted Person?
Isn't there some type of laws of Military Service, which assist in
this sort of action, to Prevent Abandonment / Abuse / Neglect of
a Spouse / Family?
Their new baby born, before he divorced my daughter.
To Me, This doesn't say much for the Enlisted Persons Conduct
Code of Ethics...but Not Every Soldier is Like This, I would hope
not anyway.

Answer 1

He's out...so the UCMJ doesn't apply. Feel free to seek redress in the civil courts. I'm not sure why you think this is a military matter. They put him out.

MSgt, USAF (Retired)

Answer 2

Under the UCMJ, a soldier (sailor, airman, other) is considered to be innocent until proven guilty. I am not certain I can follow what you said, but it certainly does not speak well for him as an individual.
As to "Misconduct", it would depend upon ALL the particulars. Only a judge in a military court can decide that. From what you said, he is now discharged; meaning that the UCMJ does NOT apply.
Also, there is no "Enlisted Persons Conduct Code of Ethics". The UCMJ applies to EVERYONE in the military (even the reserves, etc.) regardless of rank. The is a "Soldiers' Code of Conduct", but that pertains to fighting our enemies and has nothing to do with civil matters.
As outlined by you, the best choice is to contact Child Services (or whatever it is called in that particular State).
Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like your daughter abandoned her family, or her husband in this case, when she got pregnant by someone else while still being married to him. Perhaps the Army figured out that they were paying for a child that wasn't the soldier's, even though he was gracious enough to give the child his name, and discharged him over that? Maybe since you're so concerned with getting revenge on this guy and either suing him or getting him in trouble with the military (which has already been done since he was discharged), your time would be better spent educating your daughter on the values of marriage and fidelity and how to prevent an unplanned pregnancy.

Answer 4

I have to say that as far as I know, there are no provisions in the Uniform Code of MIlitary Justice that deals with a soldier who leaves his family, especially when there is a child involved that doesn't even belong to the soldier. Being a schmuck is not illegal, because if it was, there would not be enough room in prison for all the schmucks that would qualify.
Your daughter should go after THE REAL FATHER of her child and stop trying to pass the buck to some other poor schlub. This is called accountability and taking responsibility

Answer 5

I hope that he sues the hell out of her and the babies producer. Just because she couldnt keep her legs closed , his career was ruined. The army should make your daughter pay back all the money the spend on the hospital bills.
So he got his girlfriend pregnant, it happened after he left your daughter, what makes your daughter better than him.?? Your precious daughter should go after the real dad, or is he married too or in prison? She is a Class"A" homewrecker.

The army assumes as long as you are married that the baby was his, thats why the kids has his name.

Abondent, i am laughing--- that what she did when she went to some other guy. left him without a care and respect. I spit on women like that in disgust

Answer 6

I'm not a Muslim or anything, but how is wearing a headscarf any worse than our culture dictating that women don't let their thongs hand out and men don't wear extremely tight leather pants. Why does our culture require us to wear clothes at all? Weren't we all "given" our beautiful bodies. Look, I have no problem questioning how Islam treats women in general, or questioning any aspect of any organized religion for that matter, but the scarf requirement would be one of the least likely points I'd bring up when discussing Islam. The headscarf can be looked at just like a social norm. Their men wear pants, turbans, and long beards too, for example. Remember, our females are NOT allowed to go completely naked in public. I would say that some females in the U.S. dress very liberally and somewhat offensively, and they usually do it exactly because they know they are turning heads. While I do not endorse Islam (or any religion, really) as an absolute basis of social norms, their modesty of dress is, in practice, not anything more than a social norm, not worse than some of the overly-liberal clothing worn by some females in our own culture, and should be the least of worries, in my opinion, when discussing the oppression of females in the Islam world. Some view our physical culture as almost pornographic and overly reliant on projecting a sexual image. While I, personally, would never exchange the freedoms of fashion that our society allows us, and am perfectly happy with the each-to-their-own philosophy that we have, I don't really consider a very conservative code of dress to be offensive. That, by itself, hardly limits a Muslim woman from anything. Now, if you wish to discuss other things...

Answer 7

Your own discourse says he is no longer in the Army. So, neither they nor the Department of Defense are under any obligation to rectify this matter.
Blaming him for not following the military code of ethics is a given. But, don't hold him up as an example of the million-plus who serve with distinction and honor.
In short, he is a civilian. Check with civilian authorities.

Answer 8

From your convoluted description this person was discharged from the military so the Uniform Code of Military Justice does not apply to him.


As for a code of ethics, it doesn't sound like he was in long enough to develop a ethical bond to the military, so if you are questioning his ethics, look at his parents.

Answer 9

I'm unclear: your daughter was married, yet got pregnant by someone else, and now you're upset that her husband left his unfaithful spouse/your daughter and will not care for another man's baby? If that's true, what else did you and your daughter really expect?

And if he has been discharged from the service, the military won't care one iota about this situation.

Answer 10

he got discharged so how could he face UCMJ action? why are you fighting your daughter fights? YOur pretty much calling him a bad guy but he is the one who took your daughter in when she was already pregnant by another guy! He divorced your daughter so your daughter needs to move on and fight her own battles (you might have been a part in why he left, not saying this to be mean but you need to but out).