I have broke up with another girl because of her past.
When I was younger, I was taught that i would meet a "nice girl" ( a virgin), and have a happy family with her.
My first real girlfriend told me after we graduated from college (and had been seeing each other for a year) that she had had alot of lovers...I broke it off, and never talked to her again...because I feel she should have been more honest with me.
Every woman I seem to meet has been with alot of people, and now friends try to set me up with women with kids. I feel these women are "marked" by other men, and I can't get past it.
For all who may question, no I do not sleep with alot of people.
I just do not understand how a man could take a woman's hand in matrimony if she has such a past. To find a nice girl for marriage is what i want.
What does the rest of society think? Should I just give up, get into an unhappy marriage and cheat on my spouse like everyone else seems to do?
2007-11-25 10:04:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good, nice, 'marriage material' type girls don't have to be virgins (a girl having sex doesn't automatically mean she's a slut). If that's the primary attribute you look for in a woman, you'll end up unhappy anyway. But, to tell you the truth, good luck finding one outside of a church. People have been far less inhibited about sex for some time, so your requirement is quite a bit antiquated.
Don't think of it as her having been marked by someone else, think of what you can gain in the bedroom from her previous experience!
2007-11-25 10:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but the other poster is right - it just takes time. And sometimes, the trust simply doesn't come back at all, and in that case, you may just have to end the relationship. I only say this because I have been through the same thing. And for me, even though I really wanted to trust her again, I just never really could, and we ended up splitting up. It is possible to do it though - I have known some people who got past it. I wish you the best of luck.
2016-04-05 22:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, keep looking for "Miss Perfect." Even though you are a "marked man" yourself, I am sure (NOT!) that whoever you finally convince to marry you will feel so honoured that you have decided that she is worthy of you.
Just because a woman is divorced and has children, does not mean that she is "marked." Have you ever thought that she is divorced because of jerks? Or are you so chauvinistic and narrow minded that you believe that if something goes wrong in a marriage, it is just the woman's fault?
I just wonder how many divorced women with children would even consider a relationship with you considering your attitude.
Buddy, grow up. You give real men a bad name. Remember, you aren't so "pure" yourself. "He who is without sin, cast the first stone."
2007-11-25 10:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Resident Insomniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everything in life is black or white.
Yes, you may find a "good girl" (who may be conservative and/or religious).
I see nothing wrong with a woman having had 1-5 serious, intimate relationships.
It's all about the intent. I married a man who had one serious relationship prior to me. He did not bed hop and I am glad for that.
Try to keep an open mind and be willing to accept that people can change their ways. I don't believe that the past should define a person.
2007-11-25 10:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you will find her, it just takes time. Everyone is in such a hurry to find the right person (including me). There are still beautiful, nice, virgin women out there. I'm one of them, and I understand you wanting someone who has saved them self for marriage, I want that too. You fill find someone!
2007-11-25 10:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by beauty_l?ve_romance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way man and I don't think its weird; why would you want to have a wife who you know has had something that was meant to be with just one person with many people? Stick to your gut feeling and hold out; you'll me the right one eventually.
2007-11-25 10:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anomaly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are going to a very lonely bitter old man --- everyone has a past and that past has made them who they are today ---- what does it really matter what someone has done??? ---- wonderful ladies are out there and your attitude will exclude most of them
2007-11-25 10:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋