my parents dont trust me..?

Question

.. what should i do? they don even let me go over to my friend's house, or even spend a night at my cousin's house :( its not that fair, except that my brothers get to. :( i am the only girl in my family out of 5 kids, and i feel like they are just using me to help out with their little 0 yr old and 4 yr old all the time.. help me gain their trust...

Answer 1

be responsible
help around the house
don't lie
come home when you are supposed to

Answer 2

My parents are the same way. What i did was give them every resaon to trust me. They still won't let up on alot of their rules so i go behind their back (DON"T DO THIS) but Talking to your parents about it is always better than breaking the rules cause if you get caught you'll NEVER be able to do what you want. 1) do what they ask and for the time being a little more. That might mean staying home on saterday night to watch the brothers. 2) don't give them a reason not to trust you.3) maintain good grades (A's and B's) if your doing bad in school, then going out will not be an option. 4) talk to them, don't yell or be childish. Say "I'm __ years old now and i think we should talk about you letting me spend the night at friends and cousins. I know you love me and want to protect me but I need to go out in the world and experience it. If i don't make mistakes then I'll never learn, you need to give me the oppertunity to get out their and be a kid." Do not ask for anything unreasonable like staying out all night and randomly comeing home @ 2 AM. When you want to go somewhere say where your going, who will be there, what you will be doing, if their will be supervision, and when you are leaveing and coming home (and of corse how you are getting to the place). Start slow like "can I go to stacey's house(Where) at 3:00 (when)? Her mom will be there, and it will just be me and her (who). Her mom will pick us up from school (how). Me and her want to play video games(what) (or what ever you want to do)You can pick me up at 8:00 (when)." Also arrange for your parents to meet your friends parents or talk to them on the phone. As far as watching your brothers you still need to help but work out a system "If i watch them 3 days a week then I can be with friends 2 days a week." Or something like that. And once you can hang out with friends don't let your grades fall, keep helping at home, keep watching your brothers, and NEVER get in trouble.

Answer 3

It seems kind of strange to refer to your own brothers or sisters as "their little 0 yr old and 4 yr old". And why would they have you babysit their precious babies if they didn't trust you with them?
Also, are you sure that it is you they don't trust. Maybe they don't trust some man at your cousin's house.
Can they trust you? Be trustworthy, recognize any fears for your safety they may have, and see if the situation changes over time.

Answer 4

You don't state your age, but if you are helping out with an infant and 4 yrear old, you must be old enough to spend the night at a friend's house. Do your parents know this friend? Have they spoken to her parents? There might be a reason they don't trust these people. Sit down with yiour parents and ask them if there is a friend of yours they do trust and have her over to your house first. maybe they just need to know who you are with. It sounds like you just need a break from the little ones.

Answer 5

If you want your parents to trust you more get on their good side.(1) Sit down and confront them about the problem. (2) Do not get angry or yell. (3) Make sure you act like an adult. If your parents think of you as a kid they will never give you the privledges of an adult. Adn as for the baby sitting thing, they probably do need your help around the house. You should suggest a babysitter or nanny rather.

Answer 6

Honestly, you don't provide enough information to answer this. How old are you? How old are your brothers who DO get to go out? Have you done anything to break your parents' trust? Trust is earned. That's about all that I can say about it. Want to gain their trust? Prove that you deserve it. Do what they say. Help out. Don't disobey them or sneak around. Then after awhile, you will be able to put forth your responsibility as evidence that you deserve their trust and should be allowed to do what you want. But it doesn't happen over night, I'm afraid. Good luck!

Answer 7

sorry to say, but I don't think this is a trust issue. They are keeping you in a house arrest situation because you are the only female child. My parents did the same thing, I couldn't even go outside to get the mail by myself. It has nothing to do with trust, they are insecure. I really suggest you find someone who can help, either in your school (teacher, counselor etc). Try to get someone else in the family involved who is also an adult- Aunt or uncle etc.

You Should also try talking to your parents upfront about this.

Answer 8

I would tell them that you need to get paid for your babysitting. Also that they need to let you be a teenager and live a normal life or you will rebel and sneak out and get pregnant so which is it do they want to know where you are at or not? My mom was like that when I was younger I moved out at 16 and was married at 17. And you would think I was a bad kid..NNOO straight A's graduated 1 year early , but I was a bad kid LOL. Anyway, just be responsible for yourself no matter what and no matter how mad they make you. Rise above go to college prove them wrong.

Answer 9

It is possible that your parents are being protective of you. You did not specify how old you are.

If you have not done so yet, maybe you need to start doing your homework, helping out more in the house, acting more mature, etc. This will help them see you as more mature and trustworthy.

You can also tell them that you would really like to sleep over. Bring a cell phone with you and ask them to call unannounced if they need to.

Answer 10

I was 36 years old with a home of my own before I got my first house key from my parents. They never trusted me. The funny thing is, my brother was always the one throwing parties growing up.

Sometimes life is unfair. How to deal with YOUR parents? I don't think anyone here can help, but we're here to listen. Best of luck to you.

I hope they realize that by giving you no life or room to move under their roof is only going to make you leave it at your earliest opportunity.

Answer 11

First of all, don't do whatever u did for them not to trust u, and behave and listen to them and do what they say, no matter what they say, even if it makes u mad in the inside, just do it and get it over with, and last but not least, dont cop an attitude wih them, they are taking care if 5 children, and i don't think that they want u to cop one with them, trust me i have been there and done that, u need to really take my advice, it will really help u out....