Now, a few months later, her facebook profile states that she is in a relationship. I am absolutely devastated and am in shock. I feel numb to the world and am anticipating a long night of terrible dreams. I am afraid to go to sleep. But I must sleep to perform my duties tomorrow. I am falling apart. I have lost the initiative. But there are no facilities here that can give me help except the chaplain. I am hoping that she will come back, but it makes me feel so dirty to hope that she will leave this new guy. I need help, but do not know how to get it. Help me please!
2007-11-25 09:47:41 · 7 answers · asked by tfitm 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry. i know that doesn't help much! can you speak with anyone in your chain of command? one of the guys in the unit? anyone who will listen? someone who will be there for you?Its not a good place to be! there are people here for you, but the guys there are the ones you need right now, they understand much more than the ones here can ever begin to. you can also try posting the question in military, there are guys in there who have served or are serving in combat zones, they are in a better place to really understand. and best answer yet, you had it yourself, your chaplain! Good Luck and Godspeed! Thank You for your service! Again, I am so sorry for what you are going through!
2007-11-25 11:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I can imagine how hard it is.
But, if the two of you were separated, it was one of the things to expect.
Do you know the reasons why the two of you broke up?
You had said previously that your girlfriend had finished with you, but has your second part time job, or her current situation anything to do with that?
Well, if she has moved on so fast, it means that she either was ready some time ago, or is angry with you and is doing her best to get over you.
In which case, you unfortunately don't have much choice yourself, but to let go.
I feel for you, as more than ever, I guess that you could do with the support of a loving partner.
But, the way to see it, is if you were not right for each other, then it would have ended sooner or later.
There's never a good time to break up with someone.
Only, there's no much sense in living a lie either.
I know it's a poor consolation.
I am a single parent myself, so I'd know about it.
But, somehow, I like the idea of eventually finding that person who will be with me, for me, and with whom I'll be so happy with, that we'd go through thick and thin together, and I will also grow old with that person.
Thinking of you.
Good luck and all the very best.xxxx
2007-11-26 05:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. That's freaking horrible. It's appropriate that you're devastated and in shock. Most people feel that the end of a relationship is like the death of a loved one, and it's true that your brain reacts in the same way.
You WILL be OK. People survive this stuff. You will survive the bad dreams, the grief, all of it. She was not right for you, otherwise this wouldn't have happened. You're going to have all kinds of crazy thoughts in the next month. But the other people here are right, your work is so important right now, you have to find a way to focus on it.
I don't know if it's considered weird to tell your buddies what's going on, but it will help if you can tell just one person. That way, someone can cover for you or at least be on your side if you can't do what you need to do in work.
Since your work is so intense, and I'm guessing it involves life-and-death situations, you will probably be able to shift focus when you need to. This is the worst of it, right now. You are in the worst of it, and you'll start healing now. Someday when you find the right girl, you will see this in its proper perspective as a horrible event, but one that is going to take you where you need to go in life.
2007-11-25 10:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by thalesgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in case you like her, which you needless to say do then danger it. Yeah you already know her luggage and all of the hell she might deliver yet if you breakup the single she ought to be with lower back is you no longer him. So the actual question your asking is the thank you to get her to alter for the greater perfect marvelous? substitute your habit in the direction of her, do no longer make the reconciliation all forgive and ignore, play hardball, cling out with "acquaintances" you are able to text textile in basic terms like she does. Be the guy she loves yet bury your jealousy yet ensure she sees she on my own isn't certain your interest. Linger too long with attractive waitresses at dinner, introduce her together with her call and a component hug such as you may a chum. think of back, for the longest time she's placed you on an emotional rollercoaster, yet after each little thing in case you experience she's worth it, tension her to attain your worth to. in spite of the fact that together with her arguing would not look to artwork, so do no longer even attempt to argue. you may desire to make her experience opt to you she's the only lady interior the international, allure her, woo her, yet deliver her marvelous back to earth with the help of flirting with different women individuals, and not being concerned on the flaws that made you jealous before. If she's constantly busy attempting to maintain your interest, with a bit of luck ahead of later she'll comprehend what you already do, tthat the luggage is bullshit, that the relationship might desire to be between you 2. have faith me i've got regretfully had to try this distinctive instances and this is in no way failed me.
2016-11-12 19:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew of a way to tell you to get over her, but I don't. I do know that you've got to suck it up. Not only your life, but your buddies lives depend on you being alert, so not being alert is not an option. there is no BS about she wasn't good enough for you and you're better off without her. the bottom line is "she's gone" period. if she decides to come back to you at a later date you face that decision then-YOU GOT NO CHOICE BUT TO LIVE IN THE PRESENT!! you've got no choice but to move on-to not move on will destroy your life, and, quite possibly cost you your life. and I can, definitely, tell you she's not worth that.
2007-11-25 09:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First, stop and take a breather. Try not to let this situation with her run your life. She obviously isn't worth it, so you should try to let it sink in that she is with someone new. Once that has sunk in, maybe you should try to find someone new as well.
2007-11-25 09:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't deserve a good guy like you. Let it go. You'll find someone much better.
2007-11-25 09:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋