there is a family member who is always stealing stuff from my home when they come to visit. How do I tell them to stay away without starting trouble with the rest of the family.....
2007-11-25 09:47:38 · 7 answers · asked by dj.wildman_wqkb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not answer the door when they come. Block them from your phone.
You need to take care of your own problems without worrying about what your family thinks.
2007-11-25 09:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would there be any trouble in the family if some moron is stealing from you? You need to stand firm about that person stealing and don't hold back or be shy. Stand up for yourself and protect yourself and your belongings. That is your stuff and makes me mad that a relative is stealing from you and I don't even know you. I can't tolerate or stand thieves. That same moron should noy be allowed to step one foot inside your house. (smile) In other words you tell this person flat out " you are a fricken thief and stole from me so therefore you are not welcome inside my home. Now go away before I call the police and get a restraining order against you" is how you tell that family member. Then you disown them. Harsh isn't it? Well he will just do it again if you let him inside your house.
2007-11-25 10:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be polite. Do not accuse the person, just let them know that for personal reasons, you would rather not have them as a visitor in your home.
There may be no way to avoid starting trouble with the rest of the family, but I bet that if they are stealing from you, they are stealing from others. You may be setting the tone for your family to address the issue.
Whatever you do, after you make this stance, do not back down.
2007-11-25 09:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Seeking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know.....if you have proof they are stealing.....tell them you saw them and they are no longer welcome.......If you aren't positive, then set a trap for them, use a webcam or video camera. You have that as proof when your family wonders what is going on. Been there done that. Had a male cousin with a drug problem. All the money in the Christmas cards would be missing. I would hide them.....so I thought...and still the cash was missing. I put the word out to the family, and althought didn't see him....someone else did....So that was that.......everyone in the family was told not to question me about him not being invited to my home again, and the reason why.......End of subject.....
2007-11-25 10:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Toffy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may not be able to, but that's not really the issue. just tell them "I'm tired of your stealing from me-so you are no longer welcome in my house. if I'm asked why you are not welcome I will tell them.
NOW, you obviously want to be sure it's that person who's stealing from you before you do that.
2007-11-25 10:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 02:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send them over to their house if they are so worried about being offended they will certenly be offended when they are stolen from
2007-11-25 12:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by colijah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋