wtih everybody but sometimes in this life people use others as doormats when they see the opportuntiy to do this.I am a quiet person who likes to get on with everyone but I dont want to be seen as being too nice, and I think that my facial features make me look innocent looking as well.I woory about my masculinity from time to time as well, what do I do?
2007-11-25 09:38:15 · 11 answers · asked by Jimmy Sarno 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Always be nice but at the first sign of disrespect to you in any way put a stop to it.. When i was younger i use to let people tell me things in those oh so double meaning ways, Finlay i said no more, and i mean it was from one day to the other. When people double talked me i put them in there place by telling them don't you mean this.. I swear it came to a stop they stop doing that to me and now i love myself so much more for doing that. Call them on it and they will feel like the fools they are.
2007-12-01 10:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are and what your life experiences have been. Feeling comfortable in one's own skin takes some time. If you have convictions you should be able to stand for them but not to the point of confrontations. Sometimes it's not appropriate to "speak your mind" so you have to learn diplomacy. You can learn how not to be a doormat by not allowing people to use you. Learn to say no when you cannot or are incapable of doing something. Realize your own time is valuable. It's really not about how you look but how you carry yourself that sends signals to people. But if you are questioning your masculinity, it would seem you have a lot of issues to sort out before you can determine who you are, who you want to be, and how you will be viewed. It might help to seek some professional help.
2007-11-25 09:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can only do to you what you allow them to. I used to consider myself to be too nice as well. People do tend to take advantage of this or misread you at times. You should have no problems moving forward on a positive note if you treat people in a manor you would like to be treated. There is a way to say no without being rude or nasty. Don't volunteer yourself and when directly asked by someone to do something if you are not available say you are not available. Once you begin to respectfully speak your mind, it should make you feel better about yourself which can boost your self esteem and could give you a different opinion of your masculinity.
2007-11-25 09:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do sympathise, I am a quiet person also and I just want to get along with everyone.
Increasing your confidence will help you feel better able to stand up for yourself. This might be through doing a job you know you are good at, taking up a hobby which you enjoy, completing a course...anything like that.
There are also a number of confidence, assertiveness etc courses available nowdays, through various routes, you might find doing one of these helpful.
Try not to worry to much, we can't all be ruler of the roost. I think you sound lovely.
Good luck!
2007-11-25 09:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Arwen ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. You dont have to let others walk all over you. But that doesn't mean that you need to change yourself into someone that even you dont know. There is nothing wrong with how your face looks either. You have a right to live your life according to how God made you. As soon as you are OK with who you are, you will find the confidence that you need to stand your ground. People admire those who are OK with who they are. And not those who feel that they need to change because they dont like who they are.
2007-11-25 10:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by guitarrman45 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same,mine has come with age though(36),i`ve got to the point in my life where i don`t care what people think,you can`t get everyone to like you.
If someone annoys you or says something that offends,then say something back,they shouldn`t say it in the 1st place.
I find that the nicer you are,but not saying something,the more you get walked over.
2007-11-29 10:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read some Miss Manners, she gives you proper responses to the things rude people will try to get you to do. That way you don't come off as rude and still maintain your individual nondoormat personality
2007-11-25 10:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-25 01:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you should, then do it quickly before you talk yourself out of it. you dont want to yell at everybody you see, but if you just think it try to do it in a somewhat nicer way. you should have common sense not to yell at a bigger dude than you though, man.
2007-11-25 09:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by oh.my! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your basically saying your a nice guy but cant understand why people are nasty to you. thats life baby, it sucks its shoite its crap but its the only life you got. no matter where you are in employment you'll get treated like crap. stand up for yourself?, just do it in work. "hey ******** i'll thank you to shut the fuckin hell up, when i speak everybody SHUTS THE **** UP"
2007-11-25 09:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by givethegiftofarsemagicthisxmas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋