He goes against what I wish for our son. Our son just turned 1 years old. My husband just fed our son garlic and 3 oz. of tea! He told me he was giving our son milk, so he lied!
What should I do? I've told him every time that I don't want our son having garlic, tea, etc. Yet, he did it anyways. He doesn't appreciate my wishes!
Help!
2007-11-25 09:36:22 · 11 answers · asked by Red 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So I shouldn't give a care that my husband doesn't trust me to be the 'stay-at-home' mom I am. Please understand that my life and career involve our son and is only our son?
2007-11-25 09:54:23 · update #1
Tea? For a one year old? Garlic shouldn't hurt him, but caffeine is a definite no-no!
Make sure he understands why it's harmful (and if garlic disagrees with your son, make sure he understands that, too.)
If he continues doing such irresponsible things, I would keep a close eye on him in the future. How immature can he be? He's supposed to be the father, for crying out lout, and he's acting like a child himself.
2007-11-25 09:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mich 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, don't order him.
Second, if the problems is about the care of your son, write down the issues (like the garlic and tea) and BOTH OF YOU talk to his pediatrician.
Third, even after this, and your husband does not listen to the pediatrician, have you thought that maybe your husband is jealous of the baby or worse...trying to hurt him?
Trust your instincts when it comes to the well being of your child.
2007-11-25 17:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by fruitie7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be a matter of "your husband's disobedience" or "your wishes".
It should be a matter of what is best for your child.
Do you have any baby care books? I would show him where it says what is recommended food for a one year old, and what is not suggested. It shouldn't be a battle of wills. Nor should your husband be treated like some petulent child who has "disobeyed".
I would suggest counselling for you both, if you have any hope of raising your son in a two-parent family.
You and you husband both need to share in the correct care of your son, not you being bossy, or him sneaking odd food to the child.
2007-11-25 17:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
WHOA THERE!! You're giving your husband ORDERS??? How loving! Neither garlic nor tea is going to injure your son. I assume the child is his, too. I'm sure he loves him just as you do. I hope you're not as controlling as you seem. Lighten up!
2007-11-25 17:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You, my dear, are living in a fantasy world. Your hubby is not a slave or a soldier that has to obey your orders. Your lucky that you don't have constant battles. As for the baby, the both of you should do what's best for the child and not play games with each other.
2007-11-25 17:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did your son get sick from that stuff? Did he like that stuff? If your husband and you cannot talk about your son and his welfare then you two need to seek some help.
2007-11-25 17:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't he have just as much right to decide things about your son as you do?
2007-11-25 17:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your orders? Is this a military run household with you being the general? I hope not.
But just talk to him and let him know how you feel.
2007-11-25 17:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
its ur husbands son too . im sure u should talk to him and discuse ur wishes and HIS for ur son .
2007-11-25 17:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Corrine B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your are really lucky that guy only disobeys your orders
2007-11-25 17:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋