I recently found out my boyfriend borrowed my money ($15) to pay for his work celebration party. At the time that he asked me for the money, he said that it was to pay back a girl friend from work that he owed. A few weeks after, I asked him if his work place will have a Christmas party like last year... because he asked me last year and i was busy then. I was looking forward to attend this year's party... that is when he told me that the day he borrowed my money was the day he paid for his ticket. He said he didn't want to ask me to go because he says that the people he works with is not the best crowd and wanted to protect me. He did ask me to go to his friend's birthday party who use to work at his workplace but not anymore. Does he really need to go to his work Christmas party? Do you consider this as a form of cheating? If you do, would you still contiue the relationship?
2007-11-25 09:33:30 · 37 answers · asked by Snow White 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, but you might want to ask yourself why he doesn't want you to go to the work christmas party.
2007-11-25 09:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by flesh 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How is that cheating? Talking to someone of the opposite sex is not cheating. It's every day life. Cheating is where he preforms a sexual action with another person that is not you. It would also be considered cheating if he was going to strip clubs and getting lap dances. It would make him a pig if he let girls hit on him and be all over him but defs not TALKING to someone of the opposite sex. Thats just silly. Don't worry he's not cheating :)
2016-05-25 22:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a form of cheating, but I'm not sure I would be keen for my man to go to my office party. It's all shop talk, and embarrassing moments when the boss gets drunk. I swore I would never go to HIS office party again. Last time was 3 years ago; I knew no-one; my guy stayed at the bar for much of the evening, being bawdy with his mates; I stayed sober, cos I was driving home...big mistake! I ended up with a car full of VERY drunk men and driving them all home!
Maybe your guy wants to let his hair down and doesn't want you there to see how awful he gets? Don't put too much store by it - go out that night yourself with your girlfriends and take your mind off it.
2007-11-25 10:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider going to the party alone cheating but it does sound fishy. You should be with your boyfriend during the holiday and if you two are serious than you should definately be joining him at his work party. I wouldn't jump to conclusions but I would ask him about it. If his work friends are people are not the best crowd than why would he want to go?
2007-11-25 09:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by jet75 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
um, I don't know, I would definitely be sketchy. I say stick around a bit longer so you can dig for some information but if this continues on, have a serious talk with him and give him an ultimatum that he should contribute to the relationship as much as you are or he's out.
2007-11-25 09:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Showmefire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...sounds like the "girl friend" from work is a "girlfriend" and he wants to spend the Christmas party with her. There is no reason for your boyfriend to not want you to attend if you really want to go. I'd confront him about it, check his phone for text messages/calls that could potentially be from that girl. Something is fishy.
2007-11-25 09:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not have to go to the party. Just because it is not the best place means you do not want to go? If he does not think you should go then should he if you are the one paying? I guess you get my point. If you do not need to go then why should he want to be there either.
2007-11-25 09:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would bet there maybe a girl he is involved with at work and
thats why he told you that. ask yourself the following
question, last year the people he worked with were not
bad people and now they are. what gives? the friend he
asked you to go to his birthday party does not work
there anymore and would have no knowledge of whatyour
boyfriend maybe up to.
2007-11-25 09:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably just wants to go out with his work mates, let his hair down and have a good eve. if you were there he would feel like he had to be with you the whole night and maybe he wouldnt be able to relax.
NO i dont consider it cheating. he wants a night out without you, that is all.
Everyone needs their own space.
2007-11-25 09:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its cheating at all. He may need to attend the party because his boss may expect him to be there. Don't worry about it, just have your own party when he gets home ; )
2007-11-25 09:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋