i have a freind who has SEVERE arthritis and hes only 14, hes allergic to strep and has been seconds away from death many times. He is always very sad about this and i want to help him enjoy life, but he hates when people feel bad for him. how can i do this?
2007-11-25 09:10:27 · 8 answers · asked by Ryan 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
strep is a bacteria, look it up.
2007-11-25 11:06:37 · update #1
He probably would benefit from taking an antidepressant. I wonder if his parents would be open to that.
2007-12-02 11:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you how I dealt with it when I was sick as a child and teen There were a couple of times when I was supposed to die but didn't. He might not either, You don't die from arthritis and you can't be allegric to a to strep it's a virus. I think that someone should get him professional help and the best way that you can be there for him is to make sure that he knows that you are there. I hated it when my friends were to afraid of didn't know what to say so they wouldn't come visit. It got very lonely. The most important part that you can play in his life is to try and treat him as normal as possible and let him join with you as much as his health will allow. IF he's to sick to go places with you, you go to him as much as possible. Especially this time of the year when everyone is spending time with family and freinds. That's what I wanted the most when I was sick or in the hospital or home recovering from an operation. Some one to care enough to come see me despite their fears or lack of what to say to me. I could change that if they were there but not if they weren't. Being sick when you're that age is bad enough, It makes you different and feel strange. Having no friends only makes that feeling 100 times worse. Being his freind and going to see him and have him with you as much as possible is the best thing that you can do for him!!!
2007-11-25 18:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tough problem! I'm sorry for him, even if he doesn't want me to. Try as much as possible to concentrate on anything positive in his life, but also be available if he wants to talk about dying. So many people are afraid of doing that and it can be really frustrating if someone wants to talk about it but no one will. Mostly just listen and don't freak out if he says something you find scary.
Also, this kind of depression can be treated, too. Is he getting any help?
2007-11-25 17:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very good friend. Keep an upbeat and positive additude on things. Try not talk about his problems as this might make him feel worse. When he gets down see if there is anything like playing a game or watching a movie something to distract him from things. And let him know your there for him, knowing he has your support will mean the world to him. Good Luck!
2007-11-25 17:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listening is the best...you listen long enough and you will hear what he wants...let him talk...or just sit and say nothing...many times when someone is close to death they want someone there but not necessarily want to talk...if he can see through a window, bring over a telescope and look at stars...or read to him...or bring to him an ice cream or some treat he might still enjoy....little things mean a lot...how about the two of you go through some school pics and family pics and make up an album together and write silly things beside the pics...fun and he doesn't have to move much but keeps him mind busy.
2007-11-25 17:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by pissy_old_lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is only 14 and he is so sick all you can do at this time is pray for him. Then go and tell him to buy a juicer and to make homemade orange and apple with some lemon in it once a week. I am sure this will help him. Maybe you can buy the juicer for him. But first ask him if a juicer would interest him so you don't waste your money. And keep praying for him.
2007-11-25 17:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by Marina C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am very sorry, u are a very good friend maybe what u could do is try to compress your pain and whenever u visit him act like NOTHING HAS HAPPENED, and try no to treat him like he is sick, maybe just talk about the great things u have done together, and idk, play games, just have fun, because sadly u don't know when his last moments will be. hope this helped
2007-11-25 17:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by beatles17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be rude but hes dying. theres not much you can do. but have him do things hes never done. do skidiving. go rocky mountain climbing.m(thats a song but w/e) tell him to do things hes always wanted to do but never got the chance.
2007-11-25 17:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by LICIOUSSSS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋