We both had a mutral break-up; He was always busy, and i was always mad that he was always busy therefore making him mad. BUT My ex an I are still best friends and can talk about almost anything together. THE PROBLEM is that I'm still in LOVE with him, and he likes another girl. He also said that going out with an ex of his would be awkward, and that he just wounldn't do that.
What do I do?
2007-11-25 09:05:05 · 37 answers · asked by Alexa A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Beings though that I am someone still in love with there ex, I would tell you to move on because the reason that you broke up could possible still be an issue if you got back together. Just like you fell in love with him you can fall in love with someone else, and it's a better possibility that everything would be right.
2007-11-25 11:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Rena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to let bygone be bygones. It's far more easily said than done, I know. It's very difficult.
I've been in that situation. I actually asked my ex to get back together again and he said no. It hurt FAR more the second time round. We're still friends and I'd prefer to have him as a friend than to have not known him at all. He's the best friend I've got.
He's dating again - I'm not (ugh!) but he is happy. I'm dealing with that and my own **** which is a lot. He's helps me and I appreciate his support and friendship.
If your guy is not into getting back together with you it may be a good idea (but a very hard thing to do) to not see him for a little while - put some distance between both of you and see other friends. Get some perspective from a distance but if he is a good friend you'll be able to meet up as friends again.
2007-11-25 09:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys could have cooked up a compromise between yourselves whilst you were still together, such as making a night of quality time for each other. That chance has gone, unfortunately, so you've got to move on. You can't make someone love you.
I think you need to leave him alone for a while. Both of you need to grieve for the relationship and let the dust settle. You never know, the temorary separation might make you both realise that you had something special and lead to you working something out. No guarantees though.
2007-11-25 09:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gemz L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off relook at the relationship you had with him and who he is. Make sure he really is someone you want to be with. You need to start by just being friends you should never jump back into something especially if you broke up because there had to be a reason. Let the relationship regrow from friendship. it may take time but it'll be worth it if he's the right guy.
2016-04-05 22:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD.
Im exactly the same as you except hes acutally going out with someone else!
Were best friends, we talk about everything and anything all the time and at any time of the day or night!
He comes round mine near enough everyday and stays alot obviously not in my bed as he has a girlfriend.
Me & hes new girlfriend used to be really good friends, were not anymore obviously.
I love him to bits and i can't bare to see him with anyone else but when i see him just me and him or when we go out on our days out i feel like we belong together.
Recently, we'v been seeing eachother less but still speaking on the phone every night but thats due to his girlfriend getting jelous.
& she has a right to be jelous because the more she pushes him away the more hes running back to me.
The only reason me and my ex arnt getting back together is because i went out with someone else and he was incredibly jelous about it!
I think you need to give it time and when you get a new boyfriend even though you might not be thinking about it now but when you do he will realise what hes lost and do anything for you back and then theres your chance.
But it just depends would you go back to your old ex when you find someone else you like?
I thought i wouldnt but look where i am now madly inlove.
Everything takes time hun and i seriously hope this works out for you.
My answer might not of been good but i tried cause im in the same boat as you.
xxx
2007-11-25 09:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by baybee-l-xo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are ex's for a reason. The sad truth to this is, if he wanted to be with you, he would. Since he's not, he doesn't.
There are other people out there who will make time for you. Get over Mr. Too Busy and look for someone who is interested in you.
2007-11-25 09:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't make people do anything- we have free will and you should never try to interfere with anothers free will. He is your ex because he doesn't love you anymore. You need to start moving on and learn from the experiences you had with him- thats what life is all about. He is moving on. If he felt the same about you then he would be asking you back into his life- he doesn't so you just have to shed the tears and forget him.
2007-11-25 09:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone let him go if he comes back it was ment to be. Time changes everything don't bug him just act happy he is your life still, and go to the show with a friend free your mind or you are going to freak the guy out, relax smile.
2007-11-25 09:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, go find someone else. Don't keep after him and make a pest out of yourself. You have your dignity now, so accept he is not in love with you, does not want to go out with you, and has another girlfriend. He has already told you that, so leave him alone. There are more fish in the sea, so go fishing.
2007-11-25 09:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont push him. You will become more attractive to him if u look like uv moved on. However if ur really hung up bout it, tell him. If he still says no, then u know at least u tried and then u can move on and someone better
2007-11-25 09:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋