my exboyfriend cheated on me while he was drunk, and he didnt tell me until i got him in a corner where he couldnt lie no more. i broke up with him but we are still close friends because i cant live without him in my life. It hurts so bad though, how long until im not in pain? or how long will it take for me to trust him again?
2007-11-25 08:25:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it will take some time to get over it depends on how much you like him...just dont go back to him... i get drunk all the time and that dont give me an excuse to cheat.. it will take time to heal .. and than you will have to learn to trust again with someone new of course
2007-11-25 08:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by whew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to love yourself first. You have to be the person in your life that looks out for you in order to be happy and have respect. Being drunk is not an excuse. I get drunk all of the time and never cheat. He hurt you, and a friend would never hurt you, so there for he is not your friend either. What happens if you forgive him, and a few years or so down the line you guys have baby's together, and while you are at home taking care of your family he is out messing around. Then its not so easy to move on with your life. The hurt will go away when you kick him out of your life, and move on. Its just a choice.
2007-11-25 16:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no right or wrong length of time, it's all up to you.
He cheated, he made the choice on that one, you broke with him, that was yours. Right now, you aren't ready to let him go completely because you both choose to remain friends. I don't know how well that is going to work because everytime you look at him, talk to him, you're going to associate this pain with him.
That's not healthy at all. Only you can answer when and if you're going to trust him again, but I had one of these guys, he never stopped drinking or cheating, no matter what I said or did, he always chose alcohol and other girls, so I left him behind and never looked back.
You may still love him, but you should love yourself more to realize you deserve better and that someone out there right now is wondering if they will meet the right girl. You never know, food for thought.
2007-11-25 16:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no real way to tell...you may be prolonging your own pain because he's still in your life, and as such he's a constant reminder. Additionally, you may never trust him again because there wasn't the usual contrition one would expect to bring about the restoration of trust...What I mean is, he didn't confess, you had to draw the information out of him, and that speaks of continued dishonesty and a desire to "get away with something" as long as it's possible. Consequently, it would take longer for trust to be reestablished under those circumstances. I'm curious: Why do you assert that you cannot live without him in your life? Are you sure that's a reasonable assessment of where you are now? It's none of my business and it truly doesn't matter to me either way, but I note that folks who violate my trust aren't suitable to be either friends or lovers to me. Good luck in the future.
2007-11-25 16:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go back to him otherwise he will cheat on u again and know he can get away with it. of cause its gonna hurt so much but the best thing u can do is be around you friends to help you get through this. he is not worth getting back with if he can cheat on you. and he can not blame it on being to drunk cause its no excuse. pls don't get back with him
2007-11-25 16:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by Adeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to worry as much about his drinking as you do about his cheating. Why do you want someone who has so many problems? Are you that desperate and needy?
2007-11-25 16:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get even. Although you are broken up, you should meet someone and sleep with them..then let him know. I have an idea of who the lucky guy could be...contact me.
2007-11-25 16:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Chris T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no one knows only you. you well know when the time is right
2007-11-25 16:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Loni M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋