can a girl repect a guy secure enough to give her a little fredom and let her dreams come true?

Question

Me and my gf went out for half a year, broke up, and then got back together. we only broke up for two months, and that was cause of a mix up. when we were getting back together she admitted that basically, she'd been the type of girl that had a one nighter hear or there. not excessive. like once every six months. but she said she would get the urge for a make out or more with the wrong type of guy about once a month, usually right before her period, and about every six months she'd cave. i asked her if she ever cheated, and she said not on me.

Compared to me, she is a realy sexual person. sounds unusual that the girl would be more sex driven then a guy, but in this case its true. I’m busy and tired a lot, and just more easily satisfied I guese.

now - i never told her this, and it sounds sick, but the thought of her hook up is intense for me. In fact, the though of her being the wrong type of a girl is intense. Like being with a sexual rockstar. like a turn on. i fantasize about it. what happened. etc.

I’ve breached the topic, and talked about the possibilities, but when we were fooling around - and I act like its dirty talk I’m doing for her benefit - like to make sure we take of her itch before or after she goes out with her freinds.

i realy realy want to give her the go ahead to do it again. call me crazy, and i'll admit it. i want to give her a rubber, and say use at your pleasure. Like, she’s not a ho, so it won’t be like she’ll be doing it every time she goes out, but in the rare time when she really feels it, I want her to feel like she can without ruining our relationship. For me, I think the risk, and not knowing, and the cahcne something is hoppening is HOT!!!!!

I want to tell her but I’m worried about her reaction.

Answer 1

The crazy thing, is the same thing that drives her itch is actually the samething that drives your itch you guys have issues. No offense, not melest kiddos and burn down church issues, your issues are with self-pride. Its been somewhat perversed, BUT in a way that complements each other, COOL! Lucky you!

*Somewhat Off Topic, But let me connect those dots*
See in all reality unconditional love dectates that yes you can have your cake and eat it too, pretty much because unconditional love lives with the understanding that we well always be their for each other. So that makes this all actually pretty health for that aspect. Marriage wise, your going to piss the catholics off, good show!

*Back on track*
Seems do to the nature of your honesty of feelings with yourselves you've began to go down some paths their. See hers is a consequence of a need or drive, to feel that what she does, the good stuff, is bull. That she can be an animal and feel good for that, its right, and at the sametime damaging. Sex is more then that, and she is dealing with the consequence of that, she hasn't found anything as intense. Guess what? SO HAVE YOU!!! All thou you guys do make love, your missing something that would make you guys feel so much more intensly worthly, then well these perversions. NOt easy, becuase chances are, you guys are not completely honest. But the actions you are desiring prove this, not my ego, so unless you find away to bring that intensity of desire into the bedroom with eachother, this perverion will get worse and so well the consequence. But its your life! Tell her, let the fun began, or let the truth began, how ever you want to paint your life. As a strive to have a light and happy exsistence, or as a stuggle to requnize how serious of a purpose you have. Ether way you slice it, its your exsistence.....