I am 13 and I have been wetting the bed lately, my mom found out and told me i have to wear diapers?

Question

we talked to my doctor who gave us some medicine and said it should stop but it hasnt!! My mom is being un-reasonable and changing my diapers. it is so mean and i want it to stop......help please!

Answer 1

first of all, don't feel bad about wetting the bed. It happens to children, even those going through puberty. you will outgrow it one day, probably soon. my son had similar problems until he was 12ish, doc gave him some medicine (sorry don't remember what it's called, he's 22 now) and it helped a lot, though it caused constipation.

there are a few things you can do for yourself:

don't drink any liquid before you go to sleep.

make sure you empty your bladder (pee) right before you go to bed

take the medicine just like the doctor told you to do and give it a chance to work. often times it can take 3 weeks or more for the medicine to become completely effective

there is a product made for older kids in your situation, they are called "good nites" or similar to that. if you are too big for them, you can use what the old folks use, called "depends".

and tell your mom that this mom said to stop behaving like an immature school yard bully! this is not something that needs humiliation to control. it is a medical issue and there is not anything you can do about it until it resolves itself.

good luck kiddo!

Answer 2

There are such things as water proof bed pads that can be washed everyday or when needed. that would be more appropriate for a 13 year old. Also, adult diapers are okay, but you can change them yourself - your mom doing it is quite inappropriate. You are an adolescent, and just because you have this problem doesn't mean you should be treated like a baby.
Are you under any unusual stress? That can cause bed wetting. Also, seizures can cause you to wet the bed, that's probably not the case, but do talk to your doctor again to be sure. Lots of other things can make that happen, but hopefully you can resolve this problem soon.

Answer 3

This is a common problem a lot of people have. Tell her enough with the diapers. It could be what you eat or drink in the evening. If you drink a lot of pop I would suggest you stop at 4 p.m. to allow the sugar to work through your system.

Set an alarm clock for every two hours and when it goes off to do the bathroom gig and then set it for another two hours.

If you haven't been wetting the bed for some time, there may be other issues at hand.

Answer 4

You have a medical problem. Hopefully the medicine will work eventually (along with limiting what you drink starting about 3 hours before bed time).

It can be damaging to the mattress and bed, so I can see why your mom is thinking if you are not able to control it, at least she won't have to keep replacing your bedding.

Perhaps, unfortunately, she really thinks that you do have control and that forcing you to wear the diapers will embarass you into controlling it.

I suggest you do 2 things. Write her a letter (so you can make your case without being interrupted). You want to explain how you honestly do not know how to control the bed wetting and that you really want it to stop too. Let her know that you are willing to do whatever it takes to stop it. Secondly, accept the 'diapers', willingly. Let her know that you are not happy about it, but that you understand what a problem it causes for her, and that you are willing to do this for her until the problem can be resolved.

When she knows that you are really trying your hardest, she is less likey to suggest things that are punaitive.

Answer 5

Okay, saying prayers to "God" isn't going to help so settle this with common sense and don't listen to these other idiots. Go to the bathroom as much as you can during the day, don't try and hold it in at all, even if you don't think you have to go, TRY. Don't drink after about 6 pm, depending on when you go to bed. Keep taking the medicine for at least 3 weeks to let it kick it. Medicine does not work right away. As far as the diaper thing, you have a say in that, your 13 years old, and your mom has absoloutly no right to do that. Refuse. Honestly, I wouldn't worry about wearing diapers. Put a plastic sheet over your matress and plastic coverings on your pillows. If you pee, then that's fine, it can be washed. Wait a week, and then on Sunday, wash your sheets for the next week.

Answer 6

Lizy, this is not as uncommon as you think. My daughter, although she doesn't wet the bed, used to not get enough sleep because she would have to get up several times a night to go.

Her doctor and I advised her to not drink after 8:00 at night, and to be sure to go before bed. That helped her.

Please explore some information such as the site: http://www.dryatnight.com/ and the book: Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness: A Practical Guide for Parents of Children with Bedwetting (Paperback). For some medical descriptions and treatments see: http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/disorders/bedwetting.shtml

Your mom thinks she is doing the right thing, but it is actually cruel and embarassing for her to be the one changing YOU. YOU are the one in charge by using it as an active approach to treating and recovering from your bedwetting, and you may wish to use the "diapers" for your own peace of mind and don't think of them as punishment, but you are THIRTEEN and your mom has no business changing your diapers if you are perfectly capable yourself. The diapers will keep your bed from getting wet and ruining the mattress and you, or mom, won't have to be washing sheets as often. Use water resistant sheets as well. Another fact is that if you are a bedwetter, the chances are good that one of your parents used to be a bedwetter, or one of their siblings, as it often runs in families. You can't help it and punishing or embarassing you into "stopping" is not the answer.

Good luck, honey. There is noting wrong with you. Sometimes our bodies and brains get our signals crossed. It's not fair, but you CAN be in control and get help! Get to it!
Sadly, the other respondents are correct about it being abusive for your mom to be changing your diapers. She is humiliating you and it is hurting you emotionally. It can damage you more than the actual bedwetting to be treated like that. Perhaps she was the original bedwetter in her family and SHE was treated like that. You need to call your doctor and tell him/her what is going on. The school nurse would be another trusted source. I would talk to mom first, calmly and firmly...no whining... and if she doesn't listen then unfortunately it will be time for you to talk to someone else. Otherwise you can be emotionally disturbed by this experience for the rest of your life, instead of treating it like the common, but treatable, inconvenience that it is.

Hang in there!!!!

Answer 7

Try not drinking water or anything b 4 u go to bed and try to make yourself get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom! First try talking to ur mom and tell her how u feel,this may sound stupid but sometimes u just need to do it..tell her that u r old enough not to wear diapers and that u are going to try to fix it on ur own and that she should just give u a chance.

Answer 8

It could be a urine infection or something like that I guess. The doc might have given you antibiotics.

If your doctor didnt suggest wearing diapers then it isnt fair your mother insisting on you wearing them and certainly shouldnt be changing you.

Tell a teacher at school whats going on ( one you can trust ) or your school counsellor.

Its mental abuse what your mom is doing and if she is behaving like that then it aint going to stop your bedwetting, more likely make it worse.

Dont drink too much before you go to bed and lay off the alcohol if you have been drinking.

If you are having other issues, such as bullying or other types of abuse from your parents, dont delay to tell a teacher you trust or your school counsellor - they wont think you are silly, its their job.

Answer 9

Do not drink anything after supper time. Relieve yourself before going to bed. Set your alarm clock to wake you every 4 hours and go use the toilet. Set it for every 2 hours if you still wet the bed. Change your diapers yourself. Your mom is doing it because she is embarrassed and frustrated with you. She is hoping the embarrassment you experience with her changing your diapers will make you stop this bed wetting.
Again, limit your fluid intake between supper time and bed time.

Answer 10

Call your Doctor and tell them what your Mom is doing. She shouldn't be changing your diapers at 13. Bedwetting isnt uncommon. Watch your fluid intake 3-4 hours before you go to bed. Avoid any liquids 1 1/2 hours before you go to bed. Also, avoid salty things...like chips or bacon 3-4 hours before bedtime...that makes you thirsty. Have your Mom get you up 1 1/2 hrs after you go to bed to use the bathroom. These things will help also, tell yourself the last thing before you fall asleep that you aren't going to wet the bed. I know this works for me....When I want to be up in the morning at a certain time, and the last thing I repeat in my mind is wake up at 5am, over and over and over. IT WORKS....and often I am up before the alarm. Cant hurt to try....