im about to turn 18 in two months & planning to move in wit my 18y/o boyfriend right after my bday .?

Question

my boyfriend & i planned that i will move in wit him wen i turn 18. he lives wit his sister & his sister r really cool about me moving in to their house. i am planning to stop goin to school for a year so i can work full time to wer im working at & share some money for the expenses at their house. btw, im a junior HS. pero can u guys give me some advice about what else to do when i move out? & yea, i dont have a car. lol. but im planning to get a crappy asz one. ;D

okay here's one of our choice. my bf told me that i dont have to stop goin to school, that i can transfer to the school that is close to their place. here's the thing im kinda struggling to my current school bcus i ran away & came back home b4 thanksgiving. idk, but if i stop, can i still go back to school for the 2nd sem?

Answer 1

Oh stop the excuses and the nonsense. I can see it now: yet another foolish, uneducated female who gets pregnant and then expects me, the hardworking taxpayer whose been at it for years, to pay for her on welfare while she sits on her lazy butt! And all because she didn't want to go to school and do all the same classes the rest of us had to do. By the way, are you already on birth control? I hope so!

You want to be an adult?! Then GROW UP. Start facing and accepting your responsibilities. What will you do if your relationship with your boyfriend ends? Why are you and your boyfriend sponging off his sister?! Sooner or later, his sister will get tired of that arrangement;or both of you will. So you're planning to quit school so you can go to work? You could do that NOW in your mother's house! If you want to contribute to someone's household as an adult, contribute to YOUR MOTHER! She is the one who has been footing your bills all your life. You owe HER before your boyfriend and/or his sister!

You are so typical of so many teenagers who want to "play house." You want all the privileges of being an adult, including sex, but none of the responsibilities. If you were truly ready for the responsbilities, you would have your own place and be paying your own bills.

This is how it's done: first you get a good education (college degree), then you get a good-paying job (due to the good education), then you have your own place and pay your own bills (in essence, show that you can "stand on your own two feet" and be self-supporting), then you buy property, then you get married if you wish, and then and ONLY after all these other criteria have been met do you even think about cranking out kids! Otherwise you are shortchanging the children. Sure, you could do it backwards. Many do -- but it takes years longer, is much harder, and more expensive.

I've seen families in apartments and condos, not houses, trying to squeeze 5 persons and a giant Rottweiler dog into a 2-bedroom place. Then the woman gets pregnant and these people actually have the nerve to act surprised that the place is becoming too small! Of course the first one to suffer is the family dog who is promptly dumped at the pound. Can you imagine the bewilderment of that gentle big dog who can only wonder what he could have possibly done to merit such harsh treatment? Of course his chances of being adopted are almost nil so it was very likely a death sentence for him. Then the persons continue to try and raise kids in a place without a yard. The guy gets a sudden "back problem" and stops working. The kids are playing in the street (not their own yard) where vehicles traffic, and the woman is screaming for them like a fishwife at the top of her lungs at 6:00 a.m. on a Sunday morning when her hardworking neighbors are trying to sleep. (She's too lazy to get up off her butt and go get her own kids so she screams at them. The kids, of course, ignore her.)

So you're "planning" to get a car. Why don't you have one now? After all, if it's so easy you should have one already! I've got news for you: the initial expense of a car is tough enough but it's nothing compared to the MAINTENANCE. Just how will you pay for the registration and insurance if you're working at a minimum wage job and paying your boyfriend's sister? And if you plan to get a "crappy asz one," what happens when it requires repair?

Stay home and stay in school. Your hormones are working overtime, that's all. Neither you nor your boyfriend are fully formed human beings yet. You have years to go before you will be ready for an adult relationship. Finish your schooling - THAT is your job!

The word is "with" not "wit."
The word is "when" not "wen."
The word is "going" not "goin."
The word is "where" not "wer."
The word "I'm" has a capital "I" and an apostrophe.

There's more but you have enough to work on now. You say "lol" and show a ";D" as if this were a laughing matter but it isn't. This is no joking matter and not to be taken lightly or with immaturity.

Answer 2

stay in school and get a part time job. a lot of people say they will take a year off and never go back. that happened to my friend and almost happened to me. i know your parents cant stop you from moving but if youre not paying rent now it might be a good idea to stay home and save for a car. you will have the best of both worlds because you can still see your boyfriend but you wont have to work full time to help pay bills. education is the most important thing for your future.

Answer 3

Why the hurry to move in with your bf.I would not quit school as you may never go back and better yourself to a good paying job.You can also work part time and get you a car and not a crappy one that will most likely cause you so many problems.Get your ducks in a row before you venture out on your own.It's not as easy as you think it is.Also make sure you take methods of preventing unwanted pregnancy.

Answer 4

My current Mother-in-law got pregnant @ age 17 and dropped out of high school (supposed to be for only a year) well, she is now 52 years old and still did not finish high school. has a heck of a time finding a job too. There are a lot of good programs out there, especially ones that help young mothers, SO I WOULD GET GOING! DO IT FOR YOUR BABY!

Answer 5

While I think it's good that you want to be independent and everything, I would be careful about burning your bridges. Make sure you have a school place to go back to after your year, you might very well need it. And make very sure that you have good birth control in place.

Answer 6

Dont drop out of school. It's almost impossible to get a good paying job without it grrr. I moved out at 17 and kept a job, it was rough but i managed. You can do it :)

Answer 7

Ok... First... Nice, I notice you're latin :P You let a "pero" slide in there. Second: Don't do it sweety. He's really not worth it... Mira, no te arruines la vida por un hombre, sigue con tus estudios, aprende mucho y saca tu carrera, y si todavia quieren estar juntos despues de eso entonces esta bien. Pero ahorita no es el lugar ni el momento.... Por favor, date la oportunidad de una buena vida.

Answer 8

Dont stop going to school before or after high school.

Answer 9

Stay in school.

Relationships come and go but you only have one life to live, don't ruin it.

Answer 10

stay in school...
and move in after school and AFTER u get into college..
u wont regret it