a few weekends ago, i got really pissed and went out with a few friends into town. and like i ust said i was so drunk, and i ended up in bed with my sorta bf stephens best friend.
thing is, me and that sorta 'bf' were on a break.
but he called me a few days ago asking to talk about things and see where that goes. we're going out for dinner tomorrow night. and i cant help but feel guilty for having sex with his bestfriend, ryan.
ryan's been ignoring stephen but he cant do that forever,
i dunno what to do. should i come clean and expect things to go right? or should i not, cos after all we were on a break?
it does change things doesnt it? :/
confused. :s help? :)
2007-11-25 06:40:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OKAY, nobs!
to those, who are on about me being a piss head.
i did NOT say im a complete alki.
bloody hell.
2007-11-25 06:58:03 · update #1
oh and to the guy who said i need professional help, you ****!
2007-11-25 07:20:41 · update #2
dont say anything
2007-11-25 06:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Be honest, tell him the truth, Just because you were on "a break" doesnt mean a thing. The truth will come out eventually if you dont tell him someone else will. Be a big girl and tell him the truth, you will feel better about yourself. You may want to be careful on how much you drink next time also.
2007-11-25 06:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a very silly person and don't deserve help.
Stop drinking for, at least, a few hours and sort it.
Why should anyone else help such an idiot until they (you) come down to earth!
If (a big if!) you can stay sober for at least a day you will be able to solve your own problem. If not seek professional help with your addictions!
2007-11-25 06:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing as it was his BEST FRIEND, the likelihood of it staying a secret is slim. Unless you could totally trust ryan to keep it to himself and not tell ANYONE. My best friend was in an identical situation, she chose not to tell her boyfriend when they got back together, as her and the guy she slept with made a pact not to tell anyone. Lo and behold a year down the line and he decides to open his mouth, causing major trouble and upset! It's up to you really, it depends on how much you care about/love your 'bf', do you see it going anywhere? If so, can you really base your relationship on a big fat lie? Chances are that one day it will all come out.
2007-11-25 06:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this all depends on the mutual meaning between you and your boyfriend regarding the "break." to some people a break may involve seeing other people, while to others a break means just being physically apart, but still emotionally together. i assume that you felt this was "break" in the sense of "breaking up." your bf may have thought otherwise. as a result, i feel that you should spill this to your bf. it may cause drama, but no one likes to feel used or cheated or lied to. maybe once you have a clean slate, things will work out or they may not. only you can make that choice.
good blessings.
2007-11-25 06:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you were drunk- that wasn't a good decision, but when you are drunk you cant make good decisions either. Come clean. Nothing is more important than honesty. He may be upset at first but he'll be much more upset if you don't tell him and he finds out later. Even though you were on a break.
2007-11-25 06:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excessive drinking always leads to trouble. I doubt Stephens is going to be real understanding when he finds out. Of course it really depends on how much he wants to stay with you. You may have also ruined a friendship between Stephen & Ryan. Nobody is going to win in this debacle.
2007-11-25 06:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by infidel-louie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you still drunk? You're the girlfriend... had sex with the best friend ... ONE of you is going to tell, sooner or later, might as well get it overwith. Just apologize and move on, let the chips fall where they may for the 2 guys
2007-11-25 06:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dan L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes honesty is the best option. Like you said things do have a habit of coming out. Prob best to make it clear that you were drunk and it isn't something your going to repeat. Also I prob wouldn't mention it on your first date back out with your bf...wouldn't go down too well with a nice steak.
Good luck
2007-11-25 06:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lainy1974 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let him know the following
1. he has the right to be hurt BUT u rly were drunk
2. u guys were on a break but u still felt bad coz u do have feeligns for him, not his friend
3.ur very very sorry
4. again, u were drunk and u didnt mean it...
and i dono try to explain it to him.. or... i dono if it might be for hte best but sometimes hiding things and lying is for the best.. so if no one except for u and ryan know about it.. and u completely trust ryan.. then i dono... but i rly dont think it's a good idea.. u just wrote their names on yahoo answers too.. anyway i don't know.. iw udnt go for hiding it but its up to u
2007-11-25 06:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honesty is always the best way to go an if you care about either one of them then you will be honest wit them an ti will all work out the way it is intended too good luck an god bless
2007-11-25 06:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by pebblesstorm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋