My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months. He's 24, I'm 21, and I am happier than ever with him. I'm a bit jaded from past relationships, and it's hard for me to express my emotions. I'm also just not good at that.
Yesterday he got upset with me and told me he doesn't like the fact that I never give him any compliments and I don't ever express my emotions. How do I do this? What should I say to him? He always compliments how I look and stuff, should I start doing that too? I'm really confsued - I don't want to lose him but I also don't know how to express myself. Thankss~!
2007-11-25 06:26:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look words mean alot to people.......try to give him complements like........
1.Hey u look great today
2.I like ur tie
3.hmmm ur hair style is really sexy
etc...........
2007-11-25 06:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by maki" The time begins Now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the guy wants compliments.
I can understand that your past has led you to be a little more closed off than you might otherwise be. I can also understand that the expression of emotion and the giving of compliments might open you up more than you feel comfortable with.
This guy sounds like the sort of fellow who interacts with compliments.
There's a really good book you might like to read to help understand all this "the 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. (Warning - it's got a very Christian slant to it - but Christian or not, the concepts are quite good).
Essentially, some people express love by
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION (this sounds like your guy) where they tell you they love you - they compliment you, how you look, what you do, etc.
Others use:
QUALITY TIME
GIFTS
ACTS OF SERVICE
PHYSICAL TOUCH
And of course people can use a combination of the above.
But if you're not communicating to him in a way that he feels loved, then he's not going to feel loved.
You might have to learn to express yourself so that you can help your guy to feel loved, particularly if you say that you are "happier than ever" with him. If this is the guy for you ...
The other benefit of learning about these things is that you man might better understand how to make YOU feel loved, although it sounds like he's already doing a good job.
2007-11-25 06:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to do is tell him that you struggle with expressing yourself, but that he needs to know that you care a lot about him. That will alone open a door for you being able to express yourself. He needs to know that you're on his team and are still attracted to him. You can't be afraid to tell him how you feel because if he leaves that will be your biggest regret. Tomorrow's never promised so you have to let him know. It should not be a forced thing for you like you are sticking pins in your side to blurt it out, but you should make yourself comfortable to a point where you can let it all out.
2007-11-25 06:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Story Unknown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him nice things when you notice them, thank him for comments, dates, gifts, things like that. Guys are sensitive like us and need recognition and to feel validated. Good Luck.. Peace
2007-11-25 06:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by jenny p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell to him what he tells to you. Its kinda double sided. Some people are just quiet and don't express themselves. If you want to be with him, you should do what he wants.
2007-11-25 06:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by Logan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You treat him the way you expect to be treated by him.Guys need that attention as much as women do.
2007-11-25 06:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by uptoyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋