I'm gay and I hate looking at porn, I find it degrading to the people involved with it. I could easily date a guy who looks at porn, but when the relationship gets serious and we both feel ready to have sex , I would not permit it. Does anyone else (gay or straight) feel this way too?
2007-11-25 06:20:32 · 9 answers · asked by noituloeve maerd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People, i'm saying that if I was in a SERIOUS relationship I would not want my partner looking at porn, honestly I dont think it would be an issue because I am sexy and when things get serious we will have sex, so I'm saying they shouldnt even need to look at it...
2007-11-25 06:26:18 · update #1
Alot of the answers I am getting are chock full of attitude because you totally mis-understood what I was saying.
If you use the same argument in a different context it makes no sense , for example:
Luis and Rosa are married, Luis cheats on Rosa,How dare Rosa tell Luis that she won't tolerate cheating, she has no right to control him!
2007-11-25 06:31:10 · update #2
Colorfullcandy, you know what I am talking about! Too bad all of the people who completly misunderstood the question wont come back and read your answer, God bless you too, you gave me so much more insight!
2007-11-25 06:36:56 · update #3
I notice that in most porn the sex is just power plays. Women are usually in some sort of submissive position getting "done" however many ways by how ever many guys/girls/objects/animals etc... So yeah, pieces of meat versus real women etc... Never quite brought into the line that "they are adults and getting paid - where's the harm?" Its' kinda like saying prostitutes enjoy their work. Not sure if gay porn (for males I assume? is the same, haven't really seen any).
I agree with those that say be honest at the beginning of things becoming serious. With my b/f I just mentioned that I have never really been too good with porn, so not to expect too much from me. If the guy really values the relationship and you really get hurt or completely object on some other grounds to porn then he'll probably stop doing it because he wants you happy more than he wants to masturbate to porn.
2007-11-25 06:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 04:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Wilbur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a female and I am straight and have been in a relationship for 21/2 years...
I am NOT for Pornography at all...I feel exactly the same way you feela nd have had issues with my boyfriend on this topic...I think it is immoral and degrading and do not understand why people who watch this material are "ok" with it...I have caught porn on my boyfriends computer and seriously took offense to it because am I not enough for you and why does a person have to support such an immoral activity..porn is at differnt levels with different individuals and many people n this world support it by watching it...I clearly have expressed this issue to my boyfriend and if I am to find traces of porn in his possesion i will the relationship because we would have different insight on something I feel strongly about because I am a christian and I have been brought up in a way that sex is for two people who love eachother not people who sell themselves and degrade their body...I love my boyfriend very musch but if he needs to see and watch degrading women and men do things then he does not need to be with me..he could easily find someone else who will watch it with him and support it with him..I hope this helps and I hope you find someone who will not lie to you and treat you differnt because they want to watch other men and porn...do not rush into a relationship and not know what you are getting into.. God bless...
2007-11-25 06:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by old 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't permit what? Like you think you control what the other person does? Sorry, but you don't. How is porn degrading? Those people want to be in that movie and are paid well for being in it.
2007-11-25 06:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
um.......im pretty sure you are dating a guy that likes porn. As a guess. But for future reference, many couples hate watching their partner look at porn. Its because they are afriad that their partner might leave them to find another guy/gal. You aren't the only one who feels this way. Im not gay, but im straight.
2007-11-25 06:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah. once in my school, (last year) the Seniors pulled a prank. they put porn in all the 7th and 8th graders lockers. so some was in my locker. they put it in books to so like 7 years down the road people would finde it. some kids keep it. including the guy who i liked. i stoped likeing him after that.i cant stand perverted guys!
2007-11-25 06:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Permit what? Your partner watching porn? I don't think you have much to say about that other person. They can make their own decisions about everything and don't need your permission to permit it or not.
2007-11-25 06:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be upfront. Don't put a ban on something midway in the relationship, that's emotional blackmail. If you won't tolerate it, the be real about it.
2007-11-25 06:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by Myself432943 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate porn too.
2007-11-25 06:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋