I've been seeing this guy pretty consistently for the past few weeks. Last night I decided to go further than kissing. He couldn't get an erection. He only had 6-7 beers in the course of 4 hours, so I know it wasn't the alcohol. I did everything I normally do to be sexy and seductive. I don't understand. We both were naked, he seemed to enjoy my body a lot, kissing it all over, but he still couldn't get it up. He didn't bothered by it. So I pulled the "tired" card and it was a struggle to get him to stop touching/kissing me so I could sleep. Is he gay? Should I expect this again? I have a feeling I should be, and that worries me. I'm pretty disappointed. What should I do??
2007-11-25 06:10:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh yeah, after that whole thing happened, when we were going to sleep, he asked me where we stand, as in a relationship or whatever. I'm thinking, how can we be in a relationship if I can;t even get you off. So I told him I want something casual, and he said he wants more. then we slept. :(
2007-11-25 06:29:45 · update #1
maybe hes nervous--that can happen to guys you know. but mainly i think it was the beers. alcohol can have detrimental effects on the libido. it sounds like he really wanted to go for it with you but his equipment wasnt cooperating. dont be so hard on him, and dont automatically assume hes gay just because he cant get it up one time. were you drunk too? maybe he was concerned that he might be taking advantage of you if he went all the way.
give him time and try again sometime after you guys have had a nice evening together without being drunk. do things like kiss and touch throughout the evening, and when the moment is right, im sure things will go splendidly.
2007-11-25 06:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by zingbartwo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was there mutual foreplay? He obviuosly touched you. Did you touch him? Also, there are some men who are more sexually motivated by stimulating their partners. You pulled the "tired card", are you certain that maybe he shouldn't have pulled the "tired card" on you? Bottom line is, there are an infinite amount of reasons why he was not fully aroused. I am assuming that you both have good chemistry together or you wouldn't have attempted to sleep with him. That being said, you should give him at least one more chance. Now if having a relationship is not your goal, then move on to find someone who can satisfy your sexual tension you have at the moment.
2007-11-25 06:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by peg-leg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually 6-7 beers in 4 hours can have that effect. Give it another shot when he isn't drinking. You may get more then you bargained for.
It sounds like he was scared of disappointing you and was trying really hard but because of the booze was experiencing technical difficulties. It happens to the best of us guys.
2007-11-25 06:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by ltlwzl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds to me like performance anxiety. Which is basically when a man's mind gets in the way.. He's intimidated by either sex, women, or you. That's why he kept trying.. he knows he can get it up.. he just has to get his mind in the right place. The only thing you can do if you decide to sleep with him again is make him feel as comfortable with you and the situation as you can and the problem may or may not happen again.
2007-11-25 06:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kristian K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a important deal that you have not had a gf earlier than, you are saying you will have dated earlier than..? There's tons of matters you'll be doing at 17. Don't get labored up by way of what others believe or say, discover who you're and be pleased with it; that during itself will draw in humans! I in no way had braces however I had peers at college who did and it in no way gave the look to be a concern with girlfriends/boyfriends, so I would not fear approximately that. Again I re-iterate what I mentioned above.. discover who you're and be at ease with it. And consider me, if you are sincere, smooth and so forth, women love a gentleman!
2016-09-05 13:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'VE HEARD USING CERTAIN DRUGS WILL SOMETIMES CAUSE THIS TO HAPPEN. I DON'T THINK HE IS GAY. IF HE DIDN'T SEEM BOTHERED BY IT, THEN MAYBE THIS IS SOMETHING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO HIM BEFORE, OR MAYBE IT JUST TAKES HIM A WHILE TO BECOME AROUSED ENOUGH TO OBTAIN AN ERECTION. TALK TO HIM CASUALLY ABOUT IT AND HOPEFULLY HE WILL OPEN UP TO YOU AND SHED SOME LIGHT ON WHAT MAY BE HAPPENING.
2007-11-25 06:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another boy friend he might be gay and doesn't want to admit it to himself yet...He probably didn't want to stop because he was embarrassed and was hoping he could get it up..That's happened to me but but it was with my ex- when we were still dating..he had cheated on me and he was feeling guilty and couldn't get it up,,i don't think that's your situation but most the time it's physiological...Your brain controls all body function.
2007-11-25 06:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are plenty of other things that could cause this problem. I would recommend that you discuss it with him. If you don't feel comfortable discussing this with him, then you probably shouldn't be this involved with him.
2007-11-25 06:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by golden sephiroth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you still put it in your mouth?....
2007-11-25 06:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by ronaldocooperbeasley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was drunk.
2007-11-25 06:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋