Nothing for Christmas?

Question

I was fighting with my mom about living with my grandma at my hometown she shouted out and said"Say anything else and your not getting anything for Christmas my mom is very abusive what should I do?She abuses me everyday I call my grandma up says "I can't do anything over the phone honey"
She never told be she loved me before,she never appreciated me for my grades in school,she never me allowed to live with my grandma
What does my mom need me for anyway? She said I shouldn't be acting this way....Everytime my mom comes and gets me at my grandmas every holiday I say "I don't want to go" she gets very angry and starts yanking me out..my grandma doesn't do doing anything..

By the way the only people my mom gets christmas gifts for are my brother and her jerk husband!!

Answer 1

1st make sure u want to continue w/ the allagations u are making. IF it is REAL abuse u need to contact the Dept of Child Services (aka DCF) in ur area; if ur just being a snotty brat who's in her teens and doesnt know her a s s from her elbow, shut the F up and start respecting ur mother more; u might c a difference in the way she treats u... Do onto others as u would done onto u...

Answer 2

If she never gets you anything for christmas only your brother and her hubby then why would she even use that as a threat. And if you never get anything for christmas anyway why would you care if she said it in the first place. I dont know the whole story but it sounds like either you are a bit too spoiled for your own good or you just dont have the greatest mother daughter relationship. So you are saying your mom has never told you she loves you? I am sure she did when you were younger but actions speak louder than words and some people are not vocal, and what do you mean appreciate your grades in school? Does she punish you or take away your favorite things because you do good in school. I think not.

Answer 3

If grandma watches mom "abuse"you and isn't fighting for you to live with her maybe you should take another look at what's real and what isn't.I am positive every parent has threatened every child with "you're not getting anything".You need to approach mom and tell her"I hate it when we fight and I'd like us to be closer".It takes a big person to initiate.Not to be mean but you sound very selfish and ungrateful.Sometimes us parents look like big jerks and sometimes we act it too but the frustrations of being responsible for our lives and our childrens is astronomical.We weren't born parents.We are winging it and it gets frustrating when our children act differantly than we hoped.

Answer 4

If by "abuse" you mean physical, get help from an adult you trust. Verbal abuse is almost just as bad, but can usually be tolerated w/ support from others.

My mother and I fought every day of my life. Physical and verbal. She threw my first dance pictures into the rain because the water would destroy them, she pulled the top of my first dozen roses off and stamped on them w/ her feet. Once she hit me w/ the metal buckle of a belt across my face. I waited until I was 18 and moved out. ( I graduated at 17 so this did not affect my graduating)

The way I survived was going to church and making good friends w/ people who were staying out of trouble and who cared about me. Point is, you will get thru this if you try. God can get you over all of the abuse and drama if you trust in him.

Presents are nice, but once you get out you can buy what you want for yourself. I know it still sucks not getting anything from your mom, the person who you are supposed to be able to count on most, but sometimes people just get dealt crappy cards in life. Things will get better. Trust me, been there!

Answer 5

if you're being abused, you need to call the cops. however, i can't believe that your grandma would just sit there and let her granddaughter be abused...does your mom hit you, or does she just yell? if she's not hitting you, you need to sit your mom down and you guys need to talk. why do you want to live with your grandma? is there anything your mom can do to make your life at home better and change your mind about living with your grandma? tell her your need to hear that she loves you, that she's proud of you, and that she cares. then let her tell you what she needs from you: does she need more chores from you? does she need you to tell her that you care about her? you need to look at this objectively, not as a teenager.

ultimately, if your mom is not hitting you, all you can do is try to make the rest of your time at home as comfortable as possible, and it's her decision about whether or not she allows you to live with your grandma. if she doesn't, keep your cool: that's not abuse. maybe she doesn't want to let you go because she really loves you and doesn't want to feel like a failure by letting your be raised by someone else.

Answer 6

You just have to do the best you can. First of all, remember you don't get to choose your parents. Some of us getting better parents than others. Your grandparents know your Mom is the way she is and they just try their best to get along with her. You do the same. Stay out of her way and be nice. Throw yourself into getting good grades, a good career and a nice life for yourself. I'm 26 and have done the same. My Mom is an abusive alcoholic. Stay focused on your future and don't let anything she does to you hurt you. You be strong and you will have a great life ahead of you.

Answer 7

If your mom is really abusive go down to a police station and talk to someone. They can call child services and if they find out that she is unfit they could grant your grandma custody over you and you won't have to see your mom again

Answer 8

Sounds like you don't deserve anything. Have you ever hugged her and said I love you? Have you ever cleaned the house so she wouldn't have to? Have you ever bought her something for Christmas? Do you realize that Christmas is for giving not receiving? Do you have any unselfish bones in your body?

Answer 9

Not giving you Christmas gifts isn't abusive.

And if you only knew how many times I've threatened my 4 year old with that same thing...

Answer 10

Not to be mean to anyone, but maybe you should report her to someone.