hasnt even asked me yet, i would do it if i was formally asked. has anyone ever been a bridesmaid and has not be formally asked?
2007-11-25 05:47:35 · 10 answers · asked by Mrs ACO 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe she thinks that by your friend asking, it was a formal invitation. Ask your friend about it. If he is truly your best friend, then you should be able to talk about these things.
2007-11-25 10:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just assumed my best friend would know that she was a bridesmaid. We went shopping, and I asked her if she liked the earrings I might buy for the bridesmaids, and she said what are you saying? I hadn´t formally asked her, and felt so bad. I just thought she would know she was in the wedding, and she was shocked when I asked her.
Maybe hint around to the guy-maybe he will know for sure if you are supposed to be in the wedding---and for that matter, if you´re not, don´t be disappointed. Just think of all the time, money, and headaches you´ll not have!!!!
2007-11-25 15:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW treading on Springer territory, i would just explain that to your friend that you are uncomfortable doing it with out her asking you, ive been to weddings where that has been the case and some work and some dont, isnt there a movie with cameron diaz and some other girl about the same senerio
if she asks you and seriously wants you to be in the wedding like that then go for it
2007-11-25 13:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by HIKINREDNECK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
todays weddings you can stand on the grooms side and you don't even have to wear the same dress the "bridesmaids" are wearing. But talk with them both and see what they say.
2007-11-25 22:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anastasia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell him you would love it if she asked you. IF she does then great, if not, then there is nothing you can do. I had a friend that had a girl best man before. He was best friends with a woman and she stood up for him as best man with his brother and cousin. So, you could be a groomsman too. IT has happend.
2007-11-25 19:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know, the bride traditionally chooses he bridesmaids, and the groom the groomsmen. I would ask him about it.
2007-11-25 13:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by DOOM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is up to the bride to ask you not him.
i have seen too many issues pop up when brides and/or grooms arbitrarily decide to appoint their mate's attendants. if you are friends with her bring it up with her and tell her you will completely understand if he has spoken out of turn and she has her attendants already chosen. assure both of them there will be no hard feelings and then let it go.
2007-11-25 15:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by my brother and parents. My brother said they'd decided they wanted their sisters to be their witnesses (as they are called here). His and hers.
My parents decided it had to be the children. FYI my parents never got round to getting married until after 31 years of living together
2007-11-25 15:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter... just be in their wedding.. im pretty sure they're going to send you an invitation.... because its too early if they're going to give u the invitation.... but anyways... thats ypur bestfriend so she doesnt have to be there to tell you...
2007-11-25 13:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by SweetChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he means you are one of his attendents.. ask him to clarify...
2007-11-25 14:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋