How can i stop my sister from being someone she isn't?

Question

the title says it all....pleaz give me some ways.... =[ if u wanna kno the whole story scroll down (( you don't have 2 read it...;]))

ok well my sister is 17 and she been very irritating for the past year or 2. one thing that really annoys me is this... ok well i've been ticklish like since i was a baby, and everyone would always tickle me and be like your really really ticklish ((even people at skool)) and as i got older i would always try 2 tickle her and she wasn't ticklish at all, only on her feet and sides. so all of a sudden shes ticklish, like really really ticklish, but it seems sooo fake, i touched her leg for a second and like a minute after she was like"hahaha that tickles stop" and i wasn't even touching her leg.... and then on the patio 2day she was like touch the side of your boob it tickles and i did and im like it doesn't tickle, and she goes that's cuz your not ticklish, and she knows how ticklish i am. and shes dating this boy whos really really mean an annoying and they've been dating for like 2 months almost 3. me and my oldest sister can't stand her or him. all of a sudden she been like wanting 2 talk about sex and she says she still a virgin and all her and her BF do is make out in the car. i would try 2 talk to her but she has this really bad anger problem. whats wrong with her??? pleaz help me!!!!=/

ok well i'll answer some of your questions....ok well im 14, and i have no idea why she wants 2 have sex in a car, and my parents know about it, my mom has talked to her and my dad is very mad but my mom wants him to stay out of it. and i know i shouldn't be in her bussiness but if im not there and watching what she does she could get hurt or make the wrong mistake. i think shes too younge to be having sex, almost all my friends have had sex alrdy and all of the other kids in my skool too. i don't really care what they do cuz im not gonna. but my sister is sum1 who im close to and i care for her so i want to make things better, but it probably won't really work but atleast i can try...;]

But thanx for everything you guys, some of you said that u didn't give good advice but you can't say you didn't try ;]
thankyou =] <3

Answer 1

Your sister is who she is and you can't make her to be someone she isn't..

Answer 2

Hmm....this is a really tough one. From what I believe to be true, I think your sister has got very low self-esteem. I'm not saying that to be rude, I'm being genuine. You say that your sister is trying to become someone she's not? I can understand that because I've been there & the reason I temporarily pretended to be someone I wasn't was because I believed that if I did so, more people would like me. But I found that pretending to be someone I wasn't made me unhappy because I was acting to satisfy others, but was lying to myself. So, I went back to normal. If people can't accept me for who I truly am, then those kind of people are not true friends. Maybe your sister is going through the same thing.

As for her boyfriend, again, I think the reason she stays with him, despite how cruel he is, is because she's frightened of being alone. How many boyfriends has your sister ever had, if you don't mind my asking? If she hasn't had many, then perhaps she craves a partner & found it so difficult to find the one she has now that she'll just accept him just so she can tell people she has a partner. If that's the case, TALK TO HER.

Tell her you love her & she doesn't have to accept the first guy that comes into her life. Tell her she doesn't have to pretend to be ticklish (unless she really is). Also, PLEASE tell her about the dangers of having unprotected sex with a guy she's only known for a few months. She could be in serious danger (why does she want to have sex in the car, by the way?). Have you told your parents about this? Maybe she should speak to her mother.

I'm sorry I can't offer you any better advice. But I hope I've still helped a little.

Answer 3

I know sisters can be annoying sometimes, but thats all part of growing up. Try to suffer through the pain as best as possible.

If she is starting to talk about sex a lot, it probably means that her boyfriend has been bringing it up. If she is ultra comfortable talking about it and tends to bring it up, probably means she is not a virgin anymore. But unless he treats her and you like crap, you can worry for her, but there really isnt anything you can do to stop her. Try to be there for her when she needs someone to talk to and let her know that you are there.

As far as being ticklish, thats just her being silly. Ignore it as best you can and move on.

Remember, family is always going to be there through the good and the bad. This is just some of the not as good as it could be times.

Answer 4

What is wrong with her is she is a teenager and going through peer presssure trying to impress other people in her life and in the end she will regret it...Trust me there is nothing you can do to change it if you try to talk to her she will probably get upset and be rebellious and do things to annoy you even more...But you could take the chance and talk to her at a level she would understand come at her with concern and love and not anger and make sure her friends aren't around then maybe she will act civil and listen but it dont mean it will work. Good Luck..

Answer 5

Its good that your a great sister and want to care for her. You should sit down and talk to her , but dont be authorative or show anger, just tell her how you feel and that you are worried. Hopefully she will listen. And I hate to say this, but maybe she is just going through a phase too. She is at an odd stage in her life and I remember when i was that age, I didnt make the best decisions also. Its good that she has someone caring for her though, but make sure she sees that.

Answer 6

How old are you?..it seems like the problem is that there is just to much of a age diff between the two of you...once you get older and your both grown you wont feel so weird because of how shes acting...i know i went through this...with my sister...kids hit a age where they act like someone they arent just cos they think its cool...its a faze she will stop but by the time she stops you will probably be going through your faze and make her feel weird...LOL...thats how it happened with me and my sister...then sooner or later you will both even out...and be good friends...its just life.

Answer 7

first and foremost you cant help or change anybody that doesnt want to. she will learn one day a hard head makes a soft ***. if she dont want to talk or listen let her alone she'll come around when the time is right shes still maturing right now just give it some more days and pray for her!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

i think shes jealous of you and you should just ignore her and her boyfriend they probably are just trying to annoy you and yeah about the tickilish thing shes not ticklish shes just trying to grab attention or somthing..(shes being immature for a 17 year old)

Answer 9

let your sister figure life out, in her own way. You cannot change people, they have to live and learn just as you do. I would say, just butt out and see how she turns out. She will figure it all out, just as you do. Good luck, stay sister strong, but remember, you are two different people.

Answer 10

Nothing's wrong with her. She's a normal 17 year old. Her life is really not your business.

Answer 11

Maybe if I were you, write or type her a letter telling her how you feel and put it somewhere that she'll see it. If that doesn't work, tell your parents or someone that will make her listen. Goodluck