me to discuss a personal issue with an Imam?
It is a personal issue, which I need serious advice on. But obviously as an Imam is male, would it still be ok for me to discuss personal issues with him??
NO STUPID COMMENTS PLZ - keep your immature opinions to yourself. Thankyou.
2007-11-25 05:37:22 · 16 answers · asked by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
ctryhnny04 - I need to talk to an Imam because I need religious advice about something personal
2007-11-25 05:48:55 · update #1
Ninja&Proud - sis, PLEASE tell me how I can get in touch with her. Please email me. Thanks!!
2007-11-25 06:11:39 · update #2
412envy - yes....
2007-11-25 18:08:19 · update #3
As salaamu 'alaikym, my friend.
Insha'Allah, it should be acceptable and appropriate.
Word it carefully so as to not embarass either yourself or the imam.
You might also ask one of the older and wiser women at the masjid you attend as such might provide you with the answer as well.
Ma'a salaam
2007-11-25 06:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Big Bill 7 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Salaam Alaikum wa Ramatullah wa Barakatuh sis,
Since you say it is a personal question about you deen, then you could take it one of two ways(in my opinion)
One: If you have another older sister you are close with, maybe run the question by her. But I know from personal experience that most of the time, if you think you need to ask the Imam, the sister you ask will also direct you to him.
Two: Ask the Imam. If you feel uncomfortable speaking to/being alone with the Imam, ask another sister to go with you. But that's really unlikely I think. I've spoken to my Imam a few times and his assistant was always there(kind of an over-see person maybe.), and always had the option to bring another sister with me if I felt the need.
If for some reason you have to talk to him alone and you're OK with that, and its just the idea of showing your face all in another muslim man's face, hehehe, maybe pin the edge of your hijab so it works as a niqab over your face.
But lastly, DON'T delay any questions you have regarding your deen. Sitting there and wondering only leads to low iman and self doubt in what you know is right.
Hope this helps, and Mah'Salaamah!
2007-11-25 15:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by ~Nafissah~ 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You can speak with the Imam who better to answer your questions with insight into Islam.. Remember Imam's are men and we are not catholic.. So you should not meet with him alone. You can call him on the phone or you could have someone accompany you to met with him. There are many scholars in Islam that have very in depth knowledge about woman's issues and if your looking for a religious opinion it is not necessary to ask a woman.. Nuh Salman is a good scholar who has answered many issues concerning woman. Mohammad Hassan is another great scholar.. Many scholars have websites where you can email your questions to them and they will respond with an opinion..
2007-11-25 16:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by je 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes u may; and this is what they are there for; our Imam is approached by many women everyday with personal problems. It's totally ok, and I'm sure all Imams out there are God-fearing. don't forget that the Sahabiyahs used to ask the Prophet of Allah questions all the time.
salam
2007-11-25 15:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Authentic Believer (SOA) 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think it is permissible, if you need spiritual advice you should be able to talk to an Imam about anything as long as you feel comfortable, don't think of him as a male, look at him as your spiritual guide. Good luck and hope everything resolves the best way possible. May Allah bless you.
2007-11-25 14:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by AleOmar 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Assalaam Alaykum Sister
It would be permissble but wouldn't you rather speak to a women about the issue?? I know of a really good Alimah maybe you could ring and speak to her??
Insha'Allah do let me know.
EDIT @ B:: Sis If you read the question properly all Sis lavender was asking is if it would okay as it is a really personal issue! Please do not go and say we are extremists, because you would have to witness one of us doing something extreme in order to be what you claim many of us are.
Let us all deal postively with our brothers and sisters in Islam.
2007-11-25 14:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
hey I wanted to send u email but it got returned to me with failure to deliver notice.
it depends what the issue is I guess. I would be shy to talk to an imam on certain issues. If you could find a knowledgeable muslimah you might be more comfortable with her,,,if you can talk to him I think it should be fine though
2007-11-25 13:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Islam4Life 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If you need to talk to the Imam just simply ask one of the sisters to have her husband to arrange for you to meet with him and have him present wtih you, and if you are married ask your husband for him to be with you to talk with him hope things go well for you :)
2007-11-25 18:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by FeshFash 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is permissable - or you could talk to the Imam's wife and she will talk to the Imam about it
2007-11-25 16:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by alyssa 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you have a serious, personal issue I think you should ask a close friend or relative who knows you and not Imam!
2007-11-25 13:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋